179 – Why I Took a Week Off

Hey there! Welcome back! It’s Dr. D the “V”, David Madow. Back for another fantastic episode. I welcome you to The David Madow Lifestyle Show. Thanks so much for being here. I really appreciate the feedback so many of you have given me!

I took a week off. We did not do a show last week and skipped the week. It was the first time I skipped an episode in about 2 years actually. And the outpouring of love from you guys asking me what was going on because you hadn’t seen the show this past week. I love you guys and thanks so much for being concerned!

To answer many of your questions, everything is great! I just had come off of the end of Hippie Road Trip #4, I had a lot of stuff going on in my business. And you know something? I never want to put out a show unless I think it is a great one for you. The last thing I want to do is waste 20 minutes of your day listening to something that is not valuable or something that doesn’t make sense. So I decided not to do a show last week. Will I ever skip any more weeks in the future? Yes, perhaps I will just depending on what I’ve got going on and my schedule. Trust me if I miss a week, I love you still. It has nothing to do with anything except for the fact that I just didn’t have it in me to do a show that week. That’s all.

So, getting past that, I am super super excited. As I am recording this, I am getting ready for the first Vegan Indian Buffet & Open Mic (VIBOM) dinner. It’s going to take place this evening in Owings Mills, MD. If you’re listening to this now, it has already passed and I am sure it was a huge success.

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We are actually over capacity tonight and are expecting 44 people. I will be scheduling another one and the next time I do one I am going to see if I can get more capacity because this thing has taken off like crazy. It’s not just locals. We’ve got Mark “ThePro” Jackson coming in from North Carolina. He’s taking a train up to Baltimore from North Carolina to join us in this Vegan Indian Buffet & Open Mic. It’s going to be awesome and I cannot wait to see you. If you’re listening to this and you were there, I am so glad that I saw you at the Vegan Open Mic.

I want to share a few little things I learned from Hippie Road Trip #4. If you remember, Hippie Road Trip #4 went from Memphis, TN (where I spoke on a Saturday) and I had some time to take and drive down to West Palm Beach Florida where I would be speaking about 6 days later. I went through Memphis into Mississippi, Alabama, Georgia, then into Florida. It was an awesome trip and I learned a lot actually.

One of the things I learned is that southerners are really good people. I want to back up and say, most people are really good people. But when I was driving through the south through Mississippi, Tennessee, and Alabama, and Georgia, and Florida, I had the opportunity to stop at a lot of truck stops. One of my favorites is Love’s Truck Stop and I make it a point to stop at a Love’s whenever I can and get some fresh brewed iced tea. Unsweetened of course. And you come in contact with a lot of people. Not necessarily conversations but let me tell you something. People are so nice and polite. If they’re walking down an aisle or opening a door, they’ll say thank you or excuse me. I really took a step back and just really tried to observe. You hear so many people these days saying that people these days aren’t nice and they think only about themselves. But I’m not finding that, my friend! I am not finding that. I am finding some really good people wherever I go. Maybe 1 out of 10 or 1 out of 20 aren’t so nice but I don’t know. Maybe it’s my energy. Maybe it’s my vibration. But I’m running into a lot of good people. I use the analogy about the south because I just spent a lot of time in the south but when I drive up north, people are really good there too. I think basic human nature is to be good. Do we have a few bad apples because of things that have happened in their lives? We do, but you know something? I try my best not to ever judge other people because you never know what somebody’s real story is. Somebody could appear like a total jerk to you or a total ahole. Maybe they do something wrong to you. But you never know why or what their whole story is or if something just happened to them. Maybe they had a bad day. Maybe they found out that a relative has a serious illness. Maybe they just broke up with their wife. You never know what’s going on. So don’t take it for granted that somebody was not a good person because maybe they just weren’t nice at that moment or maybe they crossed you the wrong way. I have learned this in my life and I am learning it more and more as each day goes by. Have faith in humanity. Let’s give people the benefit of the doubt. Let’s not judge. And let’s be kind to people!

Speaking of being kind to people, I want to talk about social media for a few minutes. Facebook in particular because that’s my main means of social media and of communicating with you. I see a lot of things on Facebook. Sometimes I think it’s a curse and sometimes I think it gets to be too much because it definitely takes a lot of time to be involved with the entire community on Facebook. But I see a lot of things. And what I am seeing now is that I am seeing people that are unfriending others at the drop of a hat. Someone makes a comment that someone else doesn’t like, they are unfriended. Someone makes a political comment one time or even several times and they are unfriended. I had a friend of mine that said their cousin, who he’s been close with his entire life (this guy is in his 60s), unfriended him because of a political comment. Guys I don’t see that. I just don’t understand. How can you unfriend somebody? How can you not be somebody’s friend because of their opinion on something?

There is no message or notification that you get when someone unfriends you but I was recently looking for a friend of mine on Facebook and noticed that when I went to her page it said “add friend.” So I was thinking, “wow she unfriended me for some reason.” I didn’t know why. When I reached out to her and said “hey what’s going on? I see that we’re not friends on Facebook anymore.” She said something interesting to me. She said, “yeah you know the last time I saw you a couple of years ago at one of your events, I just didn’t feel that you were giving me the love like you used to or that you were paying attention to me.” So I took a step back and thought about it for a minute and thought maybe I didn’t. But then I thought, this was an event that I had about 1500 people at and it’s really tough to give 1500 people the attention they deserve. You try to. When you’re on the stage you try to give energy but talking to 1500 separate people and trying to give them love is virtually impossible in a two day period. So for some reason this woman had a vibe from me that I didn’t like her anymore. That’s crazy! I felt horrible! So I said to her,
“hey look, that’s not the case. I always love you. Maybe we don’t talk for a few months or maybe even a couple years but you know I am your friend.” She finally understood and she asked for my friendship again which I gladly gave to her. We can’t be everywhere at every moment and sometimes our imagination and our assumptions are wrong.

I had somebody else recently who said to me that she didn’t think I was a friend because I just wasn’t paying attention to her also. I felt bad but this person was imagining all kinds of crazy things why I didn’t like her anymore. None of which were true!

I told you about the book The Four Agreements. I hope you read that. If you haven’t read it, I hope you read it because it’s really really powerful. One of the four agreements is to never assume. I have found, in my life, that when I assume something or get worked up over something as I have in the past, 90% (or more) of the time, I was dead wrong. So I try my best. I’m human. I’m not a machine. It’s not a 100% that I don’t assume anymore because I am not perfect. But I try my best not to assume because more often than not everytime I assume something about why somebody did something or why somebody didn’t do something, I was almost always wrong. Are you assuming? I’m going to highly recommend that you go back to that book and read The Four Agreements again. You’ll see what the other ones are. I have talked about them all on the show. I’m such a big fan and follower of this book. I am not doing it for any other reason besides it has changed my life.

Another one of the agreements is to be impeccable with your word. And I have tried my best not to say anything that’s going to get me in trouble or get another person in trouble. Be impeccable with your word. It will catch up with you ultimately. Everything does. Especially in this world of social media. This is my assumption, and I know I am not supposed to assume, but my it’s a principle. That might be better. But I go by the principle or assumption that whatever you put out there or whatever you tell somebody, there is no way that you can hide it. So if you tell somebody something or put something online, even if you think it’s hidden somewhere, assume that it’s out there for the public to see (I give you permission to assume in this case). So before you put something online or talk about somebody behind their back, you can assume that once you put it out there, it will be public. Please remember that! It’s true. Trust me on this one. And if you have a friend or an acquaintance or coworker that is always talking about other people, trust me when you turn your back they are talking about you. Trust me. In my almost 62 years on this planet, I’ve experienced a lot. If you’ve got one of those people, you know exactly who they are, and they are talking about people in a negative way, they are talking about you when they are not with you. Believe me. I try to separate myself from negative people. Sometimes they come across as really positive people. And then when you talk to them personally, they are bad mouthing other people. When you have to bad mouth somebody else, there is generally something going on. Some people may not be as great as they appear to be on social media because they talk about other people.

On Hippie Road Trip #1, I came up with a list of about 20 things I learned. If you remember one of them was…get rid of the mother fuckers (pardon my language). That’s harsh word. It’s a bad word. I would not use that word on stage although this is sort of like my stage here. But these people that you are not aligned with and that are saying bad things about other people, get rid of them. Don’t wish them any harm. I’m not saying they are bad people but when your life gets filled up there is no room for anything else. There’s not room for any other people or events or anything like that.

So make sure you’re spending your time with the people that you are aligned with or that you are vibrating with. I could give you a list of people that are great people but I just don’t feel that I’m vibrating with. I feel like I’ve got nothing to share with them. And they probably feel the same about me and that’s ok. I’ve got plenty (that’s you) that I feel like I am aligned with and we’re vibrating on that same frequency.

So be kind to people. Spend your time with the people that mean the most to you. I can’t emphasize that enough. I did a lot of thinking on Hippie Road Trip #4.

I met up with a friend of mine that I had not seen in quite some time. We actually graduated from dental school together in 1980. I hope he is listening to this. His name is Tony and what a great guy he is! We spent 3 hours in a restaurant one evening just talking and reminiscing. And when we talked, we talked about positive things. We didn’t say anything bad about anybody at all. We didn’t bad mouth anybody. We did talk about generalities. Like people who have to show off and have to acquire so many material things because something is wrong in their lives. Their lives are empty. So they’ve got to make up for that by driving expensive cars, and having jewelry, and fancy possessions.

It’s funny. Tony and I have not spent a lot of time together except online for the past 37 years but we’re so similar in our thinking. We both done very well financially over many many years. We’ve both been very fiscally (financially) responsible. And neither of us show off anything. Both of us are very down to earth family oriented people. We don’t necessarily have to have a lot of material things in our lives because we are basically happy. We don’t need junk to show people that we are successful or happy. Or to become happy. We don’t need that stuff.

I learned a lot. Hippie Road Trip #4 was great. Just driving from Memphis to the point where I actually put my feet in the Atlantic ocean was an incredible feeling. If you ever can get out on the road and do this, I beg you to. Please try a Hippie Road Trip. They do not have to cost a lot of money. I stay in very inexpensive hotels. Or you can “boondock” which means that if you have a car or truck, you can just sleep in your car or truck. Or pitch a tent somewhere. You don’t need a lot of money to do a Hippie Road Trip. I go online to hotels.com the day of and get a good deal in the area where I am going to be. I look at reviews. And I do not stay in the most expensive places. Trust me!

I am looking forward to Hippie Road Trip #5. I am not sure when or where but it’s going to be coming up. And when it does, I am going to be sharing with you. It’s one of the things in my life now that has become really important for me. Getting out on the road and observing and looking around and meeting people all over North America. It’s been incredible and I love it. I cannot wait to do the next one.

I’m getting ready for the Vegan Indian Buffet & Open Mic night. I am moving some equipment right now. I really hope you can join me at the next one. Please get on the VIP list!

I want you to have a great week! I’ll see you next week. Hopefully I won’t be taking any time off soon but if I do bear with me. You know I will be back. Here’s my promise to you. I am not going anywhere and I promise you that. I am going to be here for the long run to help you, to inspire you, to change your life, and to be with you so you will not be alone anymore. Because I’m with you my friend.

I’m Dr. Dave. See you next week!

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178 – Hippie Road Trip 4 Begins

Hello! Hey, welcome back! It’s Dr. D the “V”, David Madow. I am really excited to be bringing you this news today. As I record this it is Sunday, March 5th, 2017. Today is the day that I am departing Memphis, Tennessee, that’s where I am right now. I am departing for Hippie Road Trip #4 in literally a couple hours.

I just had breakfast and I am getting a couple things ready. I am going to jump in the shower and hit the road. Hippie Road Trip #4 is going to be from Memphis, Tennessee down to West Palm Beach, Florida where I am speaking.

I just spoke yesterday here in Memphis, which by the way was to a great group of people. Speaking with my brother Rich. And we’ll be speaking again in West Palm on Friday so I’ve got a lot of time. I just need to be in West Palm by Thursday.

So I am going to be hitting the road going through Atlanta, Jacksonville, Florida, and then to West Palm. This Hippie Road Trip is a little bit different than my past Hippie Road trips because I’ve got somethings planned along the way. And that’s good and bad. Good because I’m seeing some friends, some family, and some people that I want to meet up with. Bad because a true Hippie Road Trip has no schedule whatsoever. Since I am trying to meet up with some people, I’ve got to have a little bit of a schedule because I have to have consideration for these people, like my daughter and son-in-law in Jacksonville, Florida. They want to know when I’m coming in case they want to prepare a dinner or something like that. They need to know. I can’t just roll in at any time.

So, even though it’s a Hippie Road Trip, it’s a little bit more structured. Which I don’t really like the structure but I’m going to deal with it this trip.

What am I going to be doing? I am going to be learning, and giving, and broadcasting. By the way, y0u can follow this. I’ll be broadcasting and taking a lot of pictures. Follow my Hippie Road Trip on Facebook. I’m going to be live streaming and I am going to be posting. I’ll try to do a Periscope or 2 or 3 or 4. But it seems as if since I got away from Periscope a little bit lately, my following on Facebook Live is so much stronger than Periscope. When I broadcast on Facebook, I get between 500 and 1000+ views on the video. Which is definitely a lot wider of an audience than I had on Periscope. So I’ll continue to use Facebook Live streaming so that you can keep up with my Hippie Road Trip.

What does it matter to you? I’ll tell you why. I’ve learned that I share with you along the way. I am going to try to meet some interesting people along the way. Get into conversations with some strangers. Help them with their lives in any way that I can. I’m going to be setting examples. I am going to be eating my totally plant based vegan diet. I don’t eat any animal products whatsoever. So I share along the way if I possibly can.

I’ll talk about anything that I can. Anything that comes to my mind. This morning I actually put a very interesting post on Facebook. The post was a little bit of a setup because it was a line from a song. What I posted was, “If I had a million dollars, I’d ________________.” For those of you that know the Barenaked Ladies song, the true answer is, “If I had a million dollars, I’d be rich.” That’s how the song goes. But it was very interesting and I am still following every answer. It was still interesting to see how many of my friends and followers who thought, “wow, if I had a million dollars my life would be totally different. I could do anything I want.” People were talking about if they had a million dollars, they would buy land, they’d buy islands, they’d buy restaurants.”

You know? A million dollars is good but I don’t think that if you have a million dollars you’re super wealthy or anything. You’ve got to be careful because that million dollars can be chipped away so fast. Faster than you’ll ever believe! And you’ll be right back to the same situation. Very few people said I would invest it for the long term. Everybody’s got to be buying something. That just goes to show how the average person out there thinks about wealth, about financial matters. Everyone wants to just buy something. Now granted, some of you said I want to buy something to help other people or start something to help other people, which I loved by the way. you’ve got to reevaluate that.

I’m talking about all kinds of things on this Hippie Road Trip. I’m really excited. I’m feeling great. I am going to try to share with you ways to travel very inexpensively. When you travel you don’t have to spend a lot of money. My friend Steve from Oklahoma city told me that I should “boondock” along the way. If you’re not familiar with what the term boondocking means, it means pretty much staying in your vehicle. Not renting a hotel room.

Right now I’ve got a rental Toyota Rav 4. It is large enough for me to put the seats down and I think I could fit in there as far as sleeping. But I only carried a backpack and a small bag with me so I don’t have a sleeping bag or a pillow. I don’t have anything to be comfortable in the car so I am not sure what I am going to do. I really hate to buy even inexpensive ones just to throw them out. I guess I could donate them. I could probably buy a sleeping pad and pillow for under $50 at the Target but would it pay to do that? I don’t know. Where I am going I don’t know if there’s going to be a lot of national parks or anything along the way. I don’t even know if you can boondock in a national park. I guess you could.  I don’t know that much about boondocking but it would be very interesting.

My first stop is going to be in Atlanta. And my good friend Mike, who is probably listening to this episode, has been gracious enough to offer me a bed and a place for the evening. So I might be sleeping in Atlanta this evening and visiting with my good friend Mike and having a cool vegan breakfast tomorrow morning.

So I am not sure what I am going to do. Do I go to Target and pick up a cheap sleeping bag, a pad, and a pillow and just donate when I’m in West Palm Beach? I don’t know. Maybe!

The first stop that I have to make before I get on the road is Whole Foods. As you know, I carry healthy vegan food in my car. I try to stay away from restaurants. I’ll probably slip into a restaurant for dinner at some point. But for lunch on the road, I make a healthy sandwich from my Whole Foods purchase. I carry some stuff in the front seat and I carry some stuff in the back. I just have stuff with me. And I am going to share with you how to travel for pennies on the dollar.

As you can tell I am excited! I have some stuff to do in the room here before I get out of here. And I hate to think I am on a time schedule but something’s telling me that I have to get going pretty soon. So what else do I have to share with you guys?

I’m going to figure out a way to get some exercise in a long the trip as well. I’ve got a Hippie Road Trip playlist I’ve made up. It’s on Spotify and I will share it with you on Facebook. And you can play it right along with me.

So, how are you doing? Is everything good in your life? I want to help you in any way I can. And that’s one of the reasons why I do this David Madow Lifestyle Show. I get on the recording once a week and I ask you to follow along with my life. You don’t have to do everything I do. You don’t have to copy me exactly. I give little tips about living a great life. Try them out! I’m pretty sure they’re going to help you! I’ve learned so much over my almost 62 years on this planet.

One of the things I’ve done recently if you’ve seen pictures of me on Facebook, is that I cut my hair pretty short. I let it go totally grey. I don’t color it anymore. I’ve colored it for so many years, I think it’s kind of like a fake. For so many years, a couple decades or so I had brownish hair and I’ve tried red at one point basically to cover up the grey. Which was stupid because there’s nothing wrong with grey hair. I’m proud to have grey hair. And maybe the grey hair makes me look a lot older than had I died it. But it is what it is. This is what I am.

I do everything to stay in shape, and to keep young, and to look as good as I can, but you know something? Why do I need to mask something that is just there? There’s nothing wrong with grey hair. I should be proud of my grey hair. And so many people that have seen me in real life have told me that I should never go back. The hair that I’ve got now looks better than it did before. So I’m not going to go back. I’m not going to color it again.

You’ve got to be proud of what you have. I am totally fine with aging. If you would have asked me this when I was 30 or maybe even when I turned 40, I hated my birthdays back then. I hated the fact that I was getting older. But I think it’s because I wasn’t really happy within. I wasn’t happy with who I was. But now I am 100% happy with my life. How things are going with my wonderful wife. And it’s ok. As the years pass, yeah you get greyer. You look older. But that’s the way it is. We can’t change that. So embrace it! Have fun! Enjoy it!

I think I am going to look back in 10 years when I am 72 and think 62 was so young. And I am embracing it. I am going to be skiing with my good friend Mike. Mike, I can’t wait to hit the slopes with you in Park City (UT) in a few weeks. We get in the chair lift and we get immature like we always do.

I think that being you and acting really young and immature is that secret to a long life. Joking around, having fun, acting like a child. I think it’s the secret to a long life. I find that the people that smile the most and laugh the most and act like kids the most, are the youngest. I’m glad to fit into that category there.

So I’ve got a lot going on. And I am just happy and proud enough to share it with you, my friend. If we’ve never met in person, if you’re listening to this somehow, I still feel like there is a serious connection between me and you and I am so glad that you are with me. We’ve got a lot to talk about.

So I’m gonna end this a little bit earlier. A few of my episodes lately have been a little bit over. I like to keep my episodes to about 20 minutes but a few of them lately have gone over so I feel like it’s ok if I take off a little bit early today. I’m going to get going.

It looks like it’s raining out but the rain does not stop a Hippie Road Trip. Nothing stops a Hippie Road Trip. The planet needs rain. The planet needs water. The beautiful green lush vegetation I’m looking at out my window here in Memphis, it just looks beautiful. If we didn’t have rain, we wouldn’t have that. So embrace all types of weather. Embrace all types of situations in your life. Embrace whatever life throws at you. And make it a good one. Make it better if you can.

Hey, I love you! Keep following me! I am so excited for the Hippie Road Trip. And I’ll see you again on the David Madow Lifestyle Show in a week. Follow me on Facebook. Follow me on my live stream broadcasts. Follow me wherever you can. We can have fun together. We’re going to learn. And we’re going to teach. And we’re going to just maximize this life. I’m Dr. Dave.

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177 – My Therapy Session

Hey welcome back! It’s Dr. Dave! Dr. D the “V” and this is the show where I help you live stronger, thinner, healthier, and happier. Thanks so much for being back with me on The David Madow Lifestyle Show. I’ve got a great one for you today.

Before we get into it, I want to remind you first that Hippie Road Trip #4 is beginning on March 4th. So if you’re listening to the show before that just know that I am going to be on the road for about 5 or 6 days. It’s between two speaking gigs and I will be driving from Memphis, Tennessee all the way down to West Palm Beach, Florida. It’s going to be a great one. I’ve got a few stops already that I am thinking about. One of them hopefully is stopping off in Jacksonville, Florida to see my daughter, son in law, and two grandkids. So if that works out schedule wise, that could be a really good one.

Hippie Road Trips pretty much don’t have schedules so I could pretty much go with the flow wherever I want. Stopping at truck stops along the way. As long as I get to my gig in West Palm Beach by Thursday, March 9th, I’ll be ok. So I’ve got a bunch of days for hippie road trippin’.

And by the way, thanks so much to all of you that have commented on some of my Facebook posts lately. My wife Yoko and I really want to ultimately look into taking an RV trip. Getting rid of some of the junk we have, finding an RV, and going off and exploring the country. Maybe for a long period of time. I’m not sure. It’s still in the works. I am researching it. There are pros and cons. I found out about RV traveling and it looks very glamorous from the outside but there are some crazy things when you dig into it and find out. It’s not as easy as it looks so it’s something we are exploring right now.

Coincidentally, there happens to be a RV show in Maryland tomorrow which we are going to go check out. I’m not going to buy anything tomorrow. But I’m doing my research and figuring it out. Yoko and I want to be on the ultimate hippie road trip and just exploring this beautiful country of ours.

The thing is as soon as I posted this on Facebook, that I just wanted to get into a RV and travel around the country for a long period of time. Maybe a year or whatever. So many people responded like “go for it”, “I wish I could do this”, “I’m jealous, this is my dream”. And it led me to start thinking; wow, people have a lot of dreams but maybe they live vicariously through other people because they can’t fulfill them. Why can’t you do this? Why can’t I do this? Why can’t we do what we want in life instead of getting up in the morning, working for “the man”, doing a 9-5. Why can’t we live out our dreams? I am doing this.

You can do this! I am no different than you, trust me. We can live our dreams and if you want to live your dreams vicariously through me that’s ok but I want YOU to live the life of your dreams. Not just listen to me. Not just watch what I do. You can watch what I do but I hope you follow. That’s why it’s The David Madow Lifestyle Show. It’s not just me telling you what to do.I’d like you to try this stuff because it really does work.

Trust me. I am no smarter. I am not special or gifted in any type of way. I just figured out how to do this stuff and you can do the same thing. Just follow me. If you’re brand new start with Episode #1. Now we’re into the 170s so it’s going to take you some time. [Dave laughs] But start with episode #1 and start listening. Immerse yourself in the culture and we will change lives for sure.

By the way, one other quick announcement. If you happen to be local to the Maryland area and even it you’re not, I’ve got some people traveling in for this little event. It’s going to be taking place on Saturday March 18th. It’s the Vegan Indian Buffet and Open Mic. We are renting out a room at a local Indian restaurant and they are setting up a special vegan buffet. We’re going to have a great time! It’s actually pretty full right now. I’ve got maybe a couple of seats left that I am holding for VIPs and last minute people. I didn’t want to use every single ticket just in case.

By the way, if you’re ever doing any kind of events or anything like that always hold back a couple tickets just in case. You never know what’s going to happen at the last minute if somebody that you didn’t think about wants to come.

But it’s going to be an incredible event! And we’re going to do another one. We’re definitely going to. This one will take place on March 18th and then we’re going to look at sometime in May to do another one. I’ve got people coming in from out of town so no matter where you are on this planet look for future announcements for future vegan buffets and open mics because this is going to be a wild cool fun event. I’ll be hanging out with you guys and Yoko my wife will be there. It’s going to be full and it’s going to be fun!

So I want to segue into today’s topic. This is a free form podcast where I just talk and help you. It’s never scripted. Never. It’s basically what flows out of my brain.

This morning, I turned on my music and for some reason I was in the mood to hear an album that I hadn’t heard in many years. It’s called Seventh Sojourn. Without going to Google, do you know the artist that made that album? I’ll give you a hint. It came out in 1972. It’s old, very old. Seventh Sojourn was the seventh album by a group called the Moody Blues. I loved them when I was back in high school and college. They are just one of my favorite groups. I had a chance to see them live in the early 70s at the Baltimore Civic Center. It was one of my first concerts ever actually. I remember that it was so loud and distorted and I brought this little tape recorder and I tried to record some of their songs and it didn’t work. Just imagine someone sitting in the 50th row in this big arena with this little tape recorder. Imagine how that sounded. I played this album this morning.

So anyhow, I played this album this morning and it was really strange. I had this flashback to 1972 and I started feeling the way I felt in 1972. I had visions of me being in high school. I graduated in 1972 and I think it was right before I graduated high school when this came out. It was not necessarily a good thing. I had these feelings that I was kind of like a misguided kid who had no direction in life. That’s the feeling that came over me when I put this on. And I remember I was on a family camping trip with my dad and brothers and a couple other dads and their sons. It was a really cool time. It was very misty out and raining and I kind of had a flashback to that. But the overall feeling was that my childhood and adolescence was weird. To this day, I don’t know if I was depressed, misguided, or no ambition. I don’t know. But this all came from this album. My parents didn’t give me a lot of guidance. God love them. My parents were great! But they weren’t really on top of things as far as guiding me in the right direction.

I sort of remember to this day how I chose the college that I went to. I went to two undergraduate colleges because I transferred after two years. But the first college I went to was called Randolph Macon which is a very small liberal arts college in Ashland, Virginia. It’s not like a did a whole lot of research to find the perfect school for me.

I will tell you how I landed at Randolph Macon in Virginia. I don’t know how it happened, but it’s weird as shit. My mom, her friend Elaine, her son Jeff, and I went down to visit this college Randolph Macon. The four of us went down to visit this college and walked around the campus. We had dinner at some restaurant in Richmond, Virginia. That evening we decided that not only would Jeff and I go to this school but we decided that Jeff and I would be roommates. Boy that was stupid! That’s the way that I was guided to pick my college. It was ridiculous! And he was a nice guy and everything but Jeff and I didn’t really fit as roommates at all. It would have been much better if I maybe had someone randomly selected for me. I would have met someone new maybe from a different culture. It was just bizarre. It was weird and the school turned out not to be good for me. Not at all. It was tiny, very conservative, maybe something like a southern Baptist. I’m Jewish and they were sending me to a southern Baptist type school with maybe 1000 students total. And they had just begun admitting women the previous year. So there were like 930 men and 70 women in this whole school. Talk about a formula for disaster.

So this is what I started thinking about when this Moody Blues album come on this morning. I really did flashback to my whole weird life. It was like one series of misguided steps to the next. Don’t get me wrong. Anybody looking at me from the outside probably thought things were ok and I don’t really know that they were. I’m wondering if I had been guided in a different direction, would my life be different? Better? My life is good so maybe I needed the weirdness when I was younger. Maybe I needed that. But I lasted 2 years at that school. Jeff lasted all 4 years. He loved it! It was probably good for him but bad for me.

In the second year, I did have another roommate. Jeff and I kind of parted ways. I guess we figured we weren’t the best as roommates for each other. I think he moved into the frat house anyway. My second roommate’s name was Scott. He was a diabetic. It was like my first introduction into diabetes. I didn’t know anything about diabetes. But this guy had to take insulin. I didn’t even know what that was back then. He was a diabetic and he was a big masturbator. I don’t know if it had anything to do with the diabetes, but this guy masturbated so much. I would always walk into the room and catch this guy masturbating. It’s not like a really uncomfortable thing for me to always walk in on this. It was just really weird.

And again this album flashed me back to this weirdness. After 2 years at Randolph Macon. I came to my senses and I transferred closer to home at the University of Maryland Baltimore County (UMBC). By the way, my grades at Randolph Macon were average at best. They were “B” and “C” type grades. They were ok not great. I didn’t even know what I wanted to do with my life so I transferred to UMBC where I then figured out that I had to grow up a little bit. I’ve got to start studying and working hard. And then I started getting “A’s”. It not that UMBC was easier. It was probably more difficult. But I totally grew up a little bit and moved back home. I studied hard because I wanted to go to dental school. Why did I want to go to dental school? I have no flipping idea. Again, it was probably because I was guided in that direction. But nobody gave me any tests or said, “Dave, I think you should be a dentist because…” So I am going to do something for the rest of my life because somebody said to try this.

This album brought this all back. I feel like this is my shrink appointment now. I feel like I am talking to my shrink. I don’t even have a shrink. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with seeing a shrink. I have seen shrinks in my life. When I was married the first time, I saw shrinks when I got divorced. I saw shrinks when I met Yoko because I was trying to figure out my life. There’s nothing at all wrong with it. It actually helped me a lot.

I’ll tell you the last time I spoke to a shrink. I remember exactly what happened. I spoke to my shrink 9 years ago. The reason I remember it was 9 years ago or so was because Obama was campaigning to be president. It was before he was elected. I said to my shrink, “I don’t think I am going to vote for Obama. I just don’t love him.”And she looked at me straight in the eye and said, “well Dave, if you are not voting for Obama that means you are racist.” And you know, I will never forget that. Because I wasn’t voting for somebody whose skin happened to be black, that meant I was racist. That was my last appointment ever with this woman. Up until then I thought she gave me a lot of good advice and helped me along with some questions I had with my life. That was the last time I ever saw shrink. The nerve of her looking at me and telling me, who loves everyone and looks at everyone the same regardless of skin color or sexual preference or age or gender. Whatever it is. I try my best to look at everybody as a human being. And this woman told me that I am a racist. So does that mean if I didn’t vote for Carter back in the 80s who I think ran against Reagan. Does that mean I hate southern people? That’s such a weird statement for a professional to tell me that if I didn’t vote for Obama I was racist. That’s just crazy.

Anyway, I digress. But again, my life was weird. I did a lot of crazy things and weird things when I was in college and dental school. But I just felt like I was a misguided mess. Thank God I finally came to my senses. It was really not until I divorced my wife of 23 years. And I went through some really tough times after that. I dated different women but I finally met Yoko and we got married. It was not until then, that I really figured it out. We’ve been married for 13 years now and it wasn’t until then that my life really started to come together. And I am going to thank the Moody Blues for coming on my iTunes this morning. Actually it might have been Spotify but I am the one that played it. But I want to thank the Moody Blues for flashing my entire adolescent life in front of me simply by playing that album. I might play it again. I’m not sure. I don’t know if I am going to play it again but I probably will. But I am going to be prepared to go back into 1972.

How about you? Do you ever listen to any music from your past that suddenly takes you back to that past whether it was good, bad, a mixture? Do you ever do that? Does it ever get you to think about how you’ve come such a long way? And how you’ve changed over many years?

I think a lot of it just has to do with life experience. When I was 17, 18, 19, I had almost no life experience and very little guidance and I had to figure things out on my own. But now about 45 years later, I think I am just starting to figure life out. Oh I wish God could give me 60 more years because I think in 60 more years I could figure a lot more out. But until then I have to enjoy every single day I have on this planet. The way I enjoy every single day is not only doing my thing but working and exploring this beautiful planet. But the way I really get my pleasure is by helping you. I love to help YOU live your best life!

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176 – Jason and Twee Start a Vegan Restaurant

Welcome back to the David Madow Lifestyle show! It’s Dr. D the “V”! It’s the show where we help you live stronger, thinner, healthier and happier. I’ve got a great show for you today, coming live from Breckenridge, Colorado.

Normally, I banter for a little bit at the beginning of the show. But right now, I’m going to get right into this because it’s going to be a show that is packed with some really cool stuff.

Yoko and I come here a lot and we spend a good part of the winter here. And we are always looking for good vegan food. So we found it. We heard about this plant based restaurant that opened up a short time ago in Breckenridge, Colorado. It’s 100 percent plant based, and I believe it’s the first one. We went in there (it’s similar to a pizza shop) and we had a great meal.

The owners came over and talked to us. And they didn’t just come over for a couple minutes to ask “how was your meal?” They came over for a while and we bonded with them. We started to hear their whole story about why they wanted to open a plant based restaurant in Breckenridge, Colorado. And now a week later we ended up in their home here in Blue River, Colorado doing a podcast finding out the entire story about Jason Goldstein and Twee Merrigan Goldstein.

I feel honored to be in your house, guys thanks so much for the invitation. Its beautiful! You guys told me you came from Westchester, New York and you drove around in like a hippie RV for I don’t know how long. I want to hear your story starting from New York to why you figured out that you wanted to start a plant based restaurant. I just want to hear your story. You will be talking to people from all over the world. I just want to hear about how you started this thing and go back to New York and why you’re here.

Jason: “Well, we decided to leave New York because we wanted to have a different life for ourselves and our family. So we thought we would move to Boulder, Colorado. After attending the National Gourmet Institute in New York, I said let’s go check out Boulder. And I was like, it seems like a beautiful place, but it’s a lot like where we were currently living in. We wanted a change from that. So I looked at my wife and she looked at me, and we said we don’t know where we’re going to live if it’s not Boulder. So we bought an RV and put our house on the market and started driving around the country until we figured out where we wanted to move. So as soon as we got to Cleveland, we thought, let’s move here. With all due respect, Westchester is a beautiful place and we loved it. But we wanted something different. Cleveland was a change. And that’s what we were looking for after being in my old career of hardwood lumber and hardwood plywood. distribution for 27 years.”

Dr. Dave: “So tell me how a Jason Goldstein who comes from Westchester, New York came to Breckenridge, Colorado? You had this vision of opening a plant based restaurant. How do you even start with that? What is the first step? What did you do?”

Jason: “I just did a Google search for restaurants that were for sale in Breckenridge and this one was available. It’s a very small restaurant, as you know, just over 800 square feet. I thought that it was in our price range and was something that was manageable and doable for us to start out in this type of industry.”

Dr. Dave: “Ok now, so Thui and Jason, you are both vegan. And I think you said you’ve both been vegan for about 3 years or so. So I’m guessing there’s no way that you would ever open up a restaurant that served animal products? So if you want to own a restaurant, you are absolutely serving plant based food. Were you worried at all that coming into Breckenridge and being the first that this thing wouldn’t really take off? That people wouldn’t accept it? Let’s face it, people love meat. I see them eating meat all the time. Were you worried that people wouldn’t come to your place if it were plant based?”

Jason: “Yes, we were very worried. In fact, on the second day after many people came in and we told them we weren’t selling because we just hadn’t taken the sign down yet. Groups of 6 and 8 were getting up and walking out. I looked at my wife and she looked at me, and I said I think we made a big mistake.”

Dr. Dave: “So now run us through this. You’ve got this vegan pizza business that’s open for business and you’ve got groups of 6 and 8 people that are coming in hungry and have probably just finished a day of skiing. They are ready to order. So what took place? At what point they figure out that they’re not going to get regular cheese from a cow or sausage? How did they figure it out? They just got up and walked out? What happened? You didn’t try to convince them to stay?”

Jason: “I am going to pass this over to my wife right now because she’s more front of the house and she was on the front lines of the situation.”

Twee: “I remember we put the sign out front that said vegan pizzeria. And I was thinking, yeah, so many people will just walk in the door. But sometimes they didn’t even get inside. They just spun on their heels. There were moments when they came and we would just say but it’s organic and sustainable and it’s non GMO. Here, can we give you a sample? We’d start getting the sample ready, and sometimes they would stay. But once they ate it, they were done. Once they ate it, they just looked at us like whoa! Here’s what it came down to. It was over the Christmas holiday and you’ve got people that come to Breck who come once a year. So they came back to the same pizzeria they were used to last year. But now that we are slammed on 3 of the 4 nights we are open it’s a totally different story and it’s only 3 weekends later. It’s just because it might have been a little bit too confrontational. You know? They just came in to get their pizza, they didn’t want to know what was in it. They just wanted to know it tasted good and they could feed their family because they either just drove into town or like you said, they just got off the mountain. So bottom line is here they are now like, “oh wait, what! It’s a vegan place? And there’s a lot more to that than you’re choosing to eat paleo or you’re choosing to eat low carbs or you’re choosing to eat gluten free. We’re talking about compassion for animals. And it was like whoa, you’re digging into a deeper belief system than mine right now. And there were people that got angry at us. I had this one group, a 4 top of adults and about 6 children. They were raving about the pizza. And again, this is when we were just opening up and figuring out how we were going to run it eventually. We wrote something on there about vegan meat or that it was plant based. Anyway, I had a family that just raved about it. And then all of a sudden, the one woman says what is that cheese? Is that like ricotta? And I looked at her and I said actually no it’s organic cashew based mozzarella. And oh my God, the look she gave me. She felt like she was tricked. At the end of the dinner, she looked at me and goes, I just want you to know that I really felt like I was tricked and we were duped. And I looked at her and said that’s the last thing we wanted to do. So here we are Jason and I busting our butts and somehow deciding to land in Breckenridge, Colorado. We were pulled here. If we were going to move to the west and moved to Colorado, we were going to make sure that opening a vegan restaurant in the middle of America. In the coastal cities, it’s very easy to go vegan. But there’s something about middle America, that it’s not that available yet. So we said we were going to move to a city or town or mountain resort that was going to have a lot of traffic. What is it? 7000 people that live here and 1.5 million that come through. So we figured even if we’re not going to do well, if we could get a couple percentages out of that, we’ll do all right. So anyway here we are. I just couldn’t believe that I had this woman who raved about it and couldn’t stop talking about it. And the other 4 adults that loved it. But once we told them, it was cashew mozzarella, I just saw people react differently. And the ones who were confronted, they were a little defensive. The ones who were open and tasted it walked away with a seed planted in their head like wow I just ate plant based food, and it tasted good. And maybe I might try again another time. And that’s what keeps the doors open for my husband and I. We don’t need to be making pizza, we don’t need to be converting anyone. We don’t want to. We could be making money and doing other things with our kids. It’s our first season in Breckenridge. Our plan was to just go riding every day. But this restaurant became available because it was meant to be. And here we are all of a sudden, the server, the staff. It just organically happened where we’re at now. It started to build. We are not building it. It’s being built with us as a part of it. But there is a family, there’s magic. Things are happening. Now we closed after that week. And for those 3 weeks, we just hung out and regrouped and said, do we really want to do this? Is this what we’re supposed to do? We wrote each other love notes like we are meant to dig our roots deep and build a mini community within this amazing community. And that’s what we’re doing. 3 weeks in and we don’t have enough staff. We have people knocking on our doors trying to get our hours extended. We’ve met people like you. A conscious community that has a gathering. And that’s what keeps us working 12 hours a day until we find the right balance. We are being called to do this. We’re being called.”

Dr. Dave: “I’ll share something that you told us when Yoko and I came into your house this evening to record this podcast. You were looking around at some houses and then you found one that was just perfect for you. And then you found this restaurant. Do you think you were asking the universe in some way for this whole thing to work out perfectly as you’re driving around in your RV for 14 months?”

Twee: Absolutely! I don’t think, I feel that is how we operate now or it’s how we’re being called to operate. Even today, we were riding on Valentine’s Day and Jason and I, of course you can’t help yourself but to talk about business especially this early in the game. And I said, what do we need. What’s the next step? He goes, I need a couple more Gregorios. Gregorio is one of our hardest workers in the kitchen. I mean this guy works 3 jobs and you know he’s sending money back home to Mexico. He said I need about 2 more of these. And so we stopped, rode the rest of the lift, and prayed to the universe. I said please, God we are dropping down on our knees of what you want us to do. We need your help. And within a half an hour, my husband just looked at his emails and said we just got 3 emails for kitchen staff and I said wow! I just prayed.I believe that if you put your mind towards a vibration that is on another level of consciousness. I’m not saying we are better than or less than. It’s like tuning in to a podcast. If you’re on the same vibration, its happening.”

Dr. Dave: “I totally agree with you there. I have told my listeners stories about when I went through a really difficult divorce, I asked the universe for a soul mate. It didn’t happen overnight. But it did happen. I teach my listeners about this. So let’s get back to the restaurant for a second. The other night, Yoko and I came in there, and we really didn’t know what to expect. We were greeted by a really nice woman her name was Victoria, I believe. She pretty much said sit wherever you want and get comfortable. We chose a great seat we were sitting next to each other with wonderful cushions next to our backs. It was great. But we still didn’t know what to expect. Then, as we were ordering, Thui I think you came over to our table and pretty much made us feel like we were old time friends. But it wasn’t just me and Yoko I noticed that you went over to every customer in the restaurant at some point and sat down with them and had a really nice conversation. And Jason, you were in the back, I think, doing a lot of the cooking but mainly the kitchen area. But Jason came over to our table, ultimately, and we all sat down and talked for a while. I am a business person as well, you know that and I think the way you’re doing, it is really really smart. You want to know your customer. You want to bond with them you want to connect with them. I imagine once you do that they’re kind of hooked and they want to come back. It’s like a family there. Tell me a little bit about how that’s working out for you. Because let’s face it, the average restaurant you walk into the owner is not going to come, sit at your table, and ask you a bunch of questions and be friendly. they might ask you how your food is, and that’s pretty much it. How’s that working out?”

Twee: ” I just did a little head count. You know, let’s make it’s relevant to the restaurant. It’s an intimate, cozy space. I think we have like 7 tables and then 5 seats at the bar and 5 seats at the island. So it’s cozy. And we love it cozy. For me, it’s about connecting with each other. I don’t know if you know, but I teach yoga professionally as well. And I teach a yoga class. You can be in and out, and it can be a real fitness experience. But what we try to offer people is some type of experience where you connect with yourself and connect with other people. It’s like we are having a dinner party. And I loved throwing dinner parties when we were back in New York. But now our restaurant is an extended dinner party from our home. So when we said to you, come over here. We met you in the restaurant, but here you are in our home because it’s an extension. The restaurant is and an extension of our home. So when you walk into our kitchen, our restaurant, or our dining room, it’s like we’re having a dinner party. And when we have dinner parties, we want to talk to everyone. Even if you bought a friend, you know? We want to know who you are and how we can serve you. Especially at the beginning. We’re not always going to be there, but we want to make sure that someone else there is also doing the same thing.”

Dr. Dave: “Well, it definitely worked. And as I said before, I felt really comfortable meeting you and talking to you. It was great. Jason, I want to talk to you a little bit more about your. I can’t say I’m a pizza expert. Being vegan, we don’t eat a lot of pizzas. And I am not just saying this because I am here in your house doing this podcast. The pizza, Jason, was unbelievable. We ordered a little too much. I was expecting a little 12 inch pizza but it came out and we had kale Cesar salads too as an appetizer. It was awesome. We split it and it was incredible. We decided to get 2 pizzas, but there were about 8 or 9 different pizzas on the menu. So I said to Yoko, a 12 inch pizza isn’t too big, let’s get 2 of them. Yoko said, are you sure? and I said yes, please, I’m starved. When they came out, they appeared to be a lot bigger than 12 inches because they’re square. Not only that the dough was incredible. Jason, something you are doing here is magical. We had a lasagna pizza and I think the other one was the pesto. So the combination of lasagna, pizza and the pesto pizza , we were in heaven. I want to talk to you in a second about how you make these things. We couldn’t finish it all, we took it home and we had pizza to eat for the next few days. So Jason, tell us just a little bit about how you are making this delicious pizza that is all vegan? And it’s different than anything I’ve ever tasted in my life. I’ve had vegan pizza in New York, trust me. This is different . This is better. So give us a little explanation as to what’s going on here?”

Jason: “All I can say is that we’re trying to honor the pizza traditions from New York from Napoli from Chicago, basically from the great pizza places around the world. That means using a top grade flour. It’s double refined and you won’t usually get that at most pizza restaurants. And putting it in a wood fire oven at 750 to 800 degrees for 90 seconds. We’re still working it out. It’s not a completed product yet. It’s not there yet. It’s close, but we’re still trying to figure this out. We have hopefully a truffle pizza coming on the menu for this weekend. So after I finished chef school, this wonderful chef opened up an unbelievable woodfire pizza restaurant in New York which is called Fortina. It’s not vegan or even close to vegan. The chef/owner Christian Petroni has won Chopped twice and is now a judge on the TV show. So everything I know started there. I did my internship there after I finished chef school. I was so inspired by these guys in their early 30s. It comes in our nature to be comfortable around our customers but these guys run an 80 seater restaurant if not larger and they sit down with everybody when they’re in there. We love how they do that. We want to connect with out customers in the same way. A lot of our inspiration comes from them.”

Twee: “So when we had our 5year old, it was an amazing time. He [Jason] was working at the family business in the South Bronx. And he would see our newborn baby about 15 minutes a night. Like most people, who unfortunately have to work, they only get to see their babies for a few hours if that. He only got to see his baby for 15 minutes a night. So it just kept happening like that and we had a “fantastic lifestyle.” One day I just said, you know babe is this what you want to do? Is this your dream? And he said no one ever asked me that question before. Here he was working at the family business since he was 13 and 27 years later his wife comes along and asks him this question and says is this what you want to do? And he said no one asked me. So I said, I’m asking you. I’m your wife, who is also a yoga teacher and goes around asking that same question every day of every single person. So what is your dream? And what are you doing about it? And here my husband was never asked or thought about it. So he thought about it. Finally he looked at me kind of shyly and said, I want to own a bar or restaurant maybe. That’s how it all started. Once he said it, then the wheels started coming into motion.”

Dr. Dave: “Jason, we need to get you back for a second because I have a really important question to ask you. You made this decision to leave the family business after 27 years which was obviously very lucrative. Is there turning back? Would you ever go back to your old lifestyle?”

Jason: “Not to my old lifestyle but there can always be unfinished business with the family business. There’s a lot of my heart and soul over there too. But not the old lifestyle, no.”

Dr. Dave: “What was the old lifestyle that you would never go back to? Give me 6o seconds. Tell me about the old lifestyle. I want to know about it”

Jason: “It was just basically living the “American dream.” In my case, just being born and raised in New Jersey and New York. My whole life I thought that New York was the center of the universe. Why would I even think about leaving? And that’s kinda the mentality of a lot of my family and people I know in that part of the country. I don’t want to go back to that. I like living with nature and a freer lifestyle to me. That’s my own personal opinion but you can ask my wife the same question.”

Dr. Dave: “Thui, we’re going to end it with this. You told me one story at the restaurant when we were sitting down talking. Can you tell that story again? Just take a few seconds. It was a great story that pretty much made me feel that, wow this person is really cool.”

Twee: “We lived next to the town Greenwich, Connecticut which was a beautiful place where you feel like you’ve jumped into the middle of Architecture Digest magazine. You go on house tours of 47 million dollar mansions. It was nice to look at, you know? And then 2 towns down was Hillary Clinton’s Chappaqua. So here we are and we’ve “made it.” But then you look around and wonder is there a deep connection with each other’s souls, beyond all the stuff that you have and the education that you require. When you look at a 5 year old daughter of an acquaintance and say, hey I like your shoes. And she looks at me and says, oh thanks they’re Steve Madden. I wanted to just stick her fingernails into dirt and mess up her hair and say go hang out in the woods for God’s sake. You’re 5! Who taught you that labels are important enough to say to another human being. What?! I just went wow babe! Do we want to live in a community where we can find a few good people who we resonate with? I am not saying it’s wrong or right, better or less than, I’m just saying it wasn’t what we were looking for. I grew up on the Jersey shore. And he ran in Ringwood, New Jersey in the woods. We were connected to nature. He was connected to the woods and I was connected to the ocean. To each his own. You do what you need to do for your children. And we were very knowing and in our power that was not how we wanted our children to ever reply to a compliment about her shoes at 5 years old. You know what I’m saying? We want them to say thank you and then maybe give a compliment back. Remember the sun is on their face. They can hear the stream or the babbling brook and it’s time to take off your clothes and go naked in the pond. Let’s get back to it! So we left that place to go into a deeper richness.”

Dr. Dave: “We’re going to end it on that because you are preaching to the choir. I love the story. We’ve got beads here. We’ve got Jason with his grey ponytail. I love these guys. They’re like vegan hippies!” [Jason laughs]

Twee: “Crunchy luxury” 😉

Dr. Dave: “Crunchy luxury, I love it!”

Twee: “We can make change happen more consciously and more quickly.”

Dr. Dave: “At the restaurant I knew I loved you guys. I am so glad that I’m over here doing this. We’re going to end it like this. Tell us the name of your restaurant and any information you want listeners to hear because I’ve got a lot listeners that come through places like Breckenridge. The restaurant is called Piante Pizzeria. And where can we find Piante in Breckenridge?”

Twee: “It’s at 520 Main Street. At the corner of Park and Main Street on top floor. We hope to have a peace sign up there or a cool  little sign that you’ll be drawn to. Piante means plant in Italian. A good friend of Jason’s gave him the suggestion and we’re forever grateful because he nailed it.”

Dr. Dave: “So if you’re listening to me now wherever you are, when you comes through Breckenridge, Colorado, your homework is to come to Piante on the corner of Park and Main. It’s like the 3rd floor. You do have to take some steps up. Trust me, it’s a great place! And I want you to meet Thui and Jason personally. Tell them you heard about it on The David Madow Show. And Thui and Jason, thanks so much for your time. And thanks for inviting me and Yoko in your home tonight with your dogs and your wonderful kitchen and food. We really appreciate you. We really appreciate it. You guys are welcome back on the show anytime.”

Thanks so much for being here!

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175 – Four Agreements

Hey there! How ya doing? It’s Dr. D the “V” back with you! Welcome to The David Madow Lifestyle Show. It’s the show where I help you live stronger, thinner, healthier, and happier. I’ve got a lot of great stuff coming at you today.

I’ve got a great show for you today. You can bookmark it and always come back to this one. Because I have been doing this show for about 3 years now as you know but this is going to be one of the most important shows I am doing for you. I’m serious about it! Bookmark it! Share it with your friends. Listen to it. And listen to it again, because it is going to help your life immensely.

Before I get into this subject, I have a couple of things for you real quick. I am still in Colorado. And it’s a beautiful cloudy snowy fairly warm day today in town. I am not skiing today, I am just cruising around doing my thing. I am really happy to say that the lifestyle here has worked really well for me. I’ve shed about 12 pounds in just about 3 weeks. I am concerned about going back East now because I have got to keep the lifestyle up. This is the way to live people! This is the way to do it! Love your body and eat healthy. These are important.

Speaking of moving your body and being outdoors, I want to share something with you. A good friend of mine, Steve Moore, down in Oklahoma City has started a Facebook group. I want you to check this out. It’s a small group right now.

I’ve talked about him a little bit before on the show. He is a retired truck driver who’s lived in the Oklahoma and Texas area I believe almost his whole life. Through listening to my shows and meeting me on Periscope video broadcasts, Steve told me his life changed. He told me that I was the one who was very influential. I am not going to take all the credit but Steve told me when we met up on Hippie Road Trip #1 that I changed his life. Steve grew up in an area that was pretty much a meat-eating area. Let’s face it, in Oklahoma and Texas, most people eat meat. And Steve, through listening to my words. Steve is in his late 50’s and now has totally changed his life. Steve I am proud of you and I want to share your group. The Facebook group is called Outdoor Tripin.

Steve now realizes that life is all about getting outdoors. If you’re going to run or do something, do it outside. Reconnect with the Earth. Steve put up a daily (almost) inspirational quote. I want you to check it out. It’s free! Steve doesn’t charge anything for his motivation and advice. I am honored to be the one (or one of the ones) that has mentored Steve in his new lifestyle.

So, I did a Facebook Live stream a few weeks ago on today’s topic so if you saw the video thanks for joining me there. I want you to listen very closely. A short time ago, maybe about a year ago, I made 4 agreements with myself and no one else. I did not come up with these 4 agreements. I did not invent them. I read the book The 4 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. In this book, he very succinctly explains that if you abide by these 4 agreements and do the best you can, it’s going to come back to you. If you do the best you can with them, your life will change for the better. I’m doing this! I am going to share some experiences with you as I describe to you these 4 agreements.

I do recommend you read the book if you can. The book expands on what I am going to make a 10 minute version of. It’s not a thick book but it’s a regular book. So I am going to try my best to condense Don’s words into 10 minutes or so.

Admittedly, when I read this about 2 years ago, I read it on audiobook. So as I was out there every day doing my “Magic 4” I was listening to the book as an audiobook on my iPhone. If you don’t have the time to sit down and read page after page, it helps to listen to it on audiobook. Let’s get into this! I really want you to try your best to incorporate these into your life.

Agreement #1: Be impeccable with your word

What does that mean? In the old days there was a saying that went “sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me.” You know something? That’s really not true. Words can really hurt people. When Don Miguel Ruiz says to be impeccable with your word, it means that before you say something just think. Think about what you’re saying. Is it true? Can it possibly hurt somebody? Is it gossip? Is it ill-intended?

Since I’ve read this book, I’ve tried so hard to not say bad things about anybody. I’m full of love and I try my best but let’s face it there are some people who are just whack jobs out there. [Dave laughs] Let’s face the facts. But I am really sticking to the 4 agreements and I try not to say anything bad.

I’ll give you an example. About 1-2 weeks ago somebody got ahold of me on Facebook. And he was trying to bring up somebody’s name and trying to trash the person. And I said to my friend, “hey I am not going there. I choose not to say anything bad about this person.” Then I said, “have you read the 4 agreements?” He hadn’t so I told him that I highly recommend it.

Let’s just be really careful. Those of us that gossip and say bad things, what good does it do? Trust me I have done it both ways. Of course we are all grown ups and if there’s somebody you don’t like you may say something bad. I don’t do that anymore. And I haven’t done it in some time. It really really does make a tremendous difference.

Be impeccable with your word. Speak with integrity. Say what you mean.

“Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.”  

– Don Miguel Ruiz

Agreement #2: Don’t take anything personally

I was a big violator of this agreement for a long time. There are a million examples of things that happen in life. I always used to take things personally. What did I do wrong? Why did they do that to me? But you know something? You never know the circumstances. You might think you know. But you don’t know the circumstances and it doesn’t do any good to take something personally. So just forget about it. Don’t worry!

Don’t take it personally! Nothing others do is because of you. Chances are that someone is not even thinking of you. It’s not all about you. What others say and do is a projection of their reality. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering. Don’t take anything personally. Let it just fly away.

Agreement #3: Don’t make assumptions

Here’s another one that I know I have been super guilty of this. Super guilty! You always assume, oh this person didn’t do x because of… and that’s the reason. I’ve found that 90% of the time, I was wrong in my assumptions. It’s not good to make assumptions. It’s unhealthy to make assumptions. Trust me. Since I listened to the audio book I stopped making assumptions. I’m telling you it really is true.

Try this. If you’re assuming things, go back and take a look at the things you have assumed. Over the past few months or year the assumptions that you made were wrong.

I had somebody recently assume something about me. And she stopped talking to me. I noticed on Facebook and through other little hints that she just was pissed at me. And I am thinking to myself , “wow it’s a friend. What did I do?” So I got ahold of her and we started talking it out and she made these assumptions that were totally wrong. And I recommended the book to her, so I said “hey have you read the book The 4 Agreements?” And she said “I have not heard of it.” And I said, “I’ve learned over the years that when you assume and when I assume, it’s almost always wrong. Don’t assume.” It’s not good. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want.

Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings. With just this one agreement you can completely transform your life. It’s true. It really is!

What’s the last agreement? Well that’s funny. I started the show off with this. When I first started talking about the 4 agreements, I said this is a little hint.

Agreement #4: Always do your best

No matter how good you are at something or if you’re really healthy whatever. All you can be asked to do is to do your best. Nobody’s perfect. I am far from perfect. We all try things. Sometimes we fail. Sometimes we just give up. A lot of times we give up way too quickly.

Over the years I’ve found that I thought I had a good idea, I started something and if it didn’t hit right away, I just gave up. Which is the stupidest thing ever by the way because sometimes success takes a long time. It does not happen overnight. You look at these overnight sensations on the internet and people that put out videos and they go viral and have millions and millions of views. But that is such a small tiny fraction of the minority. Most people, like me included, have to work hard at what they do and nothing is ever an overnight success.

For example, I have been doing The David Madow Lifestyle Show for 3 years now. And it’s not an overnight success. I’ve got a lot of great listeners and subscribers like you. And by the way if you find this helpful, share it with someone else. I’ve grown quite a bit but I really want to grow it more. I want to change the entire world even if it’s one person at a time. Even if it’s one person in the world. As I told you before, I don’t get paid for this podcast. All of my equipment I pay for, my time thinking about an episode and what I am going to talk about. It’s all time and money and I don’t get paid.

The way I do get paid is not really in cash. The way I get paid is when somebody like Steve Moore comes up to me and says “hey Dave you’ve changed my life!” That’s all I need people. That’s what I like to hear and I want to change lives. So the more people we can share this with, I appreciate it. I want the word to get out to more people.

But anyway this last agreement is just to do your best. Nobody is asking you to be perfect. You’re not going to be perfect. You’re not going to be the best in the world at something. Or probably not. But just do your best! Do the best you can. Your best is going to change from moment to moment. It will be different when you’re healthy as opposed to when you’re sick. Under any circumstance simply do your best and you will avoid self judgement, self abuse, and regret.

How do you like that? The 4 agreements that are so powerful and so life changing. I want you to start with those today. And when I say today I mean today. So think before you say something. Don’t talk about anybody else. Don’t gossip. Don’t say anything bad. Being impeccable with you word means that your words are really powerful and they will affect others. So speak the truth my friend.

The other 3 agreements I don’t need to repeat them because you can just rewind. I guess we don’t really rewind these days do we? [Dave laughs] In the old days when we had cassette tapes. Some of you might be too young to remember this but in the old days before we had online streaming videos we had to go to the video store if we wanted to watch a movie. So we went and rented one of these large bulky tapes. And when you brought them back to the shop if you didn’t rewind, many shops would charge a $2 rewind fee. There would be a sticker on the VHS that said “be kind, rewind.”

So I want you to be kind and I want you to rewind this and I want you to listen to it. How about if we make this a goal? Let’s do this! I look at the stats to see how many people are listening to each episode. Let’s do this! If you like this episode, which I hope you did, I’d like you to share this with 2 like minded people. 2 people that you’re close with. Maybe a family member. Maybe a spouse or significant other. Maybe a cousin or an associate at work. Someone that you are like minded with and you feel that they could really benefit from learning these 4 agreements. I’d like you to share this. Send them the link. Share with them how to listen to my podcast. I would appreciate it!

And you know what I am going to be doing? I am going to be looking at the statistics. I won’t be able to tell if you actually shared but I do get statistics on how many people download, what countries they’re from. But don’t worry, I don’t get names. But I’ll be able to tell if there is a spike in the downloads. And I’ll be happy because I am seeing that more people are getting it. More people want to live a better life, to help others, to help yourself, to help the planet, to help animals, and just to help everything and everybody. Isn’t that good enough? That’s the way I try to live my life. Is my life perfect? No! Not at all! I go through tough times like any of you. I go through difficult times. Trust me. Trust me I do. But I always know there’s going to be sunlight at the end of that tunnel for sure.

Thanks for being with me. If you’ve been with me for quite some time, thank for being with me today again. If you’re brand new to me, I really appreciate it. I love you! I appreciate you! And guess what? I’ll see you next week. I’m Dr. D the “V”. Have a great one!

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174 – Indian Buffets and Weight Loss

Hey there! How’s it going? Dr. D the “V”, David Madow. Welcoming you back to another episode of The David Madow Lifestyle Show. It’s the show where I help you live stronger, thinner, healthier, and happier!

I’ve got a great episode for you today. I’m recording live from Breckenridge, Colorado again. My home in the winter.

I want to share something with you today about your weight. It’s February now and unfortunately a lot of people have released the New Year’s resolutions. ttdx not abiding by them as carefully as they thought they would. But whether you’re thin, medium, heavy, whether you want to lose some weight, whether you want to gain some weight. Whatever you want to do; listen carefully because I am going to share my secrets. And also some of my struggles.

And by the way, if you’re brand new, I appreciate you! I appreciate you whether you’re new listener or long term but I’ve got some new listeners coming on board. So I really really appreciate the fact that you’re with me. I’m going to share some great things with you today.

But before I do so, I also want to give you a little reminder that on March 18th, 2017, I am producing the world’s 1st vegan Indian buffet dinner and open mic. It’s in Owings Mills, Maryland. It’s going to an incredible evening! And whether you’re local to the Maryland area or traveling in from out of state, there’s going to be a lot of cool people. Whether you’re vegan, whether you’re vegetarian, whether you’re just curious, or whether you’re totally an omnivore or carnivore and just want to see what this thing is all about; you are invited. It’s going to be a fun evening. And after dinner we’re going to open up the mic to anybody that’s there that wants to either tell a little story, do a little comedy, do a musical performance, whatever you may want to do. It’s going to be open for you. You don’t have to do anything. You can sit there and hang out and relax and eat and watch the show. Enjoy some good food and some good company.

For more information, check out my Facebook page. We’ve got a bunch of people going so far and hundreds interested. So this is going to prove to be a really cool evening. And if it works out well, which I have every reason to believe it will, but there will be more! And maybe we’ll travel to your hometown, who knows?! We’ll see! It’s going to be some fun.

So let’s talk about your weight. Let’s talk about my weight. I want to start off by saying we can never judge anybody by weight. Weight is a very personal thing no matter where you are in life. People want to be thinner. People want to gain weight. Some people are happy with the way they are.

But you never know really what’s going on inside of somebody and why they are the way they are. We never want to judge anybody personally. But it is true that if you want to be at an ideal weight, I think I can help you. I think I have kinda figured it out. Not without struggles. I’ve had plenty of struggles on my own as well. Not only that but due to some injuries and some other things going on.

I’ve had some struggles lately. Business is never as easy as it seems on the outside. When you own a business, there are always struggles. There’s all kinds of things. And I have found that due to an injury I had a short time ago combined with some stress from business and things like that, I had put on a few pounds back East. I probably put on 10 pounds. I made it a point to say that when I get out to Breckenridge, I am going to lose that weight. And I did! I’ve been pretty successful so far.

I’ve been here a little over 2 weeks now and I want to share with you some things I’ve done here that can be done anywhere. It’s easier here. I think because of the nature of the town because of the outdoor activities and some of the things I do. But what I’ve learned here can be done anywhere. So let me share with you some of the things I’m doing now to actually knock those pounds right off. And feel better. And look better.

When you look in the mirror or look back at old pictures, and you’re heavier than you want to be what’s the first thing that shows? It’s generally your face. And when you look in the mirror or look at old pictures and you’re heavier than you want to be, your face is generally fuller and fatter. And when the weight starts coming off and your face trims down, it’s like you’re a different person.

I have so many friends and so many people that I have helped with their weight troubles over the years and I can see before and after pictures; I have followers and friends that look like totally different people because their faces have narrowed down and they just look great. Now that doesn’t mean that if you have a full face, you look bad. No, I’m not saying that at all. But what I find is the first thing that is extremely noticeable is the face. It’s not necessarily the stomach but it’s the face. And the face really tells all.

So I want to share some of the things I am doing here in Breckenridge that have caused me to lose about 10 pounds in 2 1/2 weeks. And I am still going for a little bit more. So when I get back East, I am going to be a whole different person. I got my hair cut off and I look different. But I’m still the same Dr. Dave, trust me 😉

So in Breck, I walk everywhere we go. Right now I am on my way to the grocery store to pick some things up. Do you think I considered getting in my car? No! I’m walking. I’m walking every single day. When we travel to the ski life when we start skiing in the morning, we walk. And walking with skis over the snow is great exercise. Walking every single day is incredible exercise. At the end of the day, we ski down the mountain and walk about 10 minutes back to our place. So there’s a lot of walking and a lot of movement. What I’ve found is that a lot of time we are hanging around the house watching TV or at lunch eating and we just want to eat, eat, eat. It’s very easy to go to the fridge. It’s very easy to open up cabinets. It’s very easy to start eating and munching on stuff. But I’ve found that when I’m skiing, I’m not as hungry as I would if maybe I had nervous hunger like I have if I was at a business meeting or a lunch back East.

Now, I am not knocking the East. That’s where I live. But it’s really strange. You would think that skiing all morning you would be starved and want to eat this tremendous lunch and pig out. It’s actually kind of the opposite. I don’t feel all that hungry. I don’t generally eat a lot while I am skiing. But then we take a lunch break and I typically pack a sandwich, some green tea, some nuts, and I will be very honest with you occasionally we’ll pack a few little chips. They are not healthy at all by any stretch of the imagination. Am I perfect?  I try to eliminate all the processed foods that I can. That’s another one of my secrets.

Moving your body is not a secret but it’s something that works. If you want to lose weight, you pretty much have to do it on a regular basis.

Eating is another thing. As you know, I eat plant based. I don’t eat anything from an animal. When you eat plant based vegan and you cut out the processed foods and the sugars. No cookies, no desserts, no sweetened drinks at all. The only thing that I drink out here is basically water and unsweetened tea. No artificial sweeteners, no sugar, no nothing. Occasionally, if Yoko and I are out at one of our favorite restaurants we will split a sake. But very very little. I drink almost no alcohol. If you like alcohol, I’m not down on it; I’m just telling you it’s packed with calories. And when you eliminate alcohol, you’re gonna lose weight. When you eliminate wheat products and processed things like that, you’re gonna lose weight.

So those are the two main things that I find that when I am here help me with weight control. Eating a vegan diet, which I do anywhere, and moving my body.

What we do here, I do every day. I do some yoga poses I don’t do a full hour of yoga. I can’t say I don’t have the time for it. I just don’t do it. I do meditation practically every single day. And not noshing on junk. That’s pretty much my secret.

So maybe there’s something to this. If you want to lose weight, maybe there’s something to putting yourself in a different environment for a short period of time and really ramping it up. Moving your body more, taking time to yourself, eating better, and being stricter on your diet.

I am very strict. Even when I’m back East, I’m really strict. But I find that sometimes I do indulge in foods that are processed and not whole foods. I try my best to eat a whole food plant based diet. I never deviate on the animal part of it. I do not want to eat any animal products for so many reasons. I just don’t eat any animal products. So I never ever make an exception there. I never just take a bite of cheese. I just won’t do it. I look at labels and if something has animal products, I just don’t buy it. I am pretty much 100% vegan. Or as close to 100% as possible.

I know that when you eat in a restaurant you are pretty much at the mercy of the restaurant and you never know 100%. But most people as soon as you tell them what you don’t want to have in your food, they are very good about understanding. And I am finding, especially here in Breck too, that people are in tune to vegan eating. When were in an Indian restaurant last night and the waitress there totally understood when I said it. When you go to Indian restaurants and get the bread you think it’s so innocuous but let me tell you there is milk product in nan bread. If you want to get a bread in an Indian restaurant that has no dairy, you’ll want to get roti. Roti is a whole wheat bread that’s made without dairy. But be very careful. There’s hidden animal products in many many things that you would not expect.

So, it’s February. New Year’s resolutions for many of you have kind of gone down the tubes. And sometimes you get frustrated and you struggle especially with weight. So I am here to be your coach. I’m going to help you. I’m going to be your cheerleader. I know you can do this. The best advice I can give you is to try your best to make very few exceptions. The people that say anything in moderation is ok, to me that’s bullshit. I do not think that anything in moderation is ok. I think that’s an excuse for eating junk. Because would you say that heroin or cocaine in moderation is ok? You wouldn’t even think about that I hope. You wouldn’t even consider that in moderation. So why would you consider something that’s really bad for you like a coca-cola ok? I would not. So let’s tighten our belts so to speak (no pun intended) and really watch what we eat and be stricter and move our body.

Last spring, I got a Fitbit Blaze and it tracks my steps every day and tells me how much I sleep at night. I love it! It’s been an invaluable tool to help me keep my body in the best shape possible. I am going to be 62 in May and yeah I’m here skiing with my son who’s 31 and my wife who’s 46. I’m skiing with these youngsters and I’m keeping up…kind of. I’m skiing the blacks, the double blacks, the tough stuff. And do I ever get sore? Of course I do. Right now I could use an incredible massage on my left shoulder. It’s just sore. They are out actually on the slopes right now and I am kind of taking the morning off relaxing and recording this for you. And going to the grocery store getting some really healthy food. That’s exactly what I’m doing.

I’m probably going to be doing another live-stream Facebook video. I try to do those once or twice a month now. I try not to overdo it. I’m getting ready to do one a few days after Superbowl.

A lot of good stuff coming up. I’m excited about life. Do we all have struggles? Absolutely! Is life tough sometimes? It is! It really is! I’ll share some things with you in the very near future about some of the struggles I’ve been going through. And I’m just trying to sort things out. And figure out my life like I always go. I’m very goal oriented. I still carry around my goals in my notebook everywhere I go.

But sometimes things get difficult. And it doesn’t help that everyone is so divided now about the politics that are going on in the U.S. and really with things going on all over the world.  But I’ve never seen a nation so divided. I’ve never seen so many Facebook friends feel so divided. And I want to end with this. If someone is a different religion than you are, a different skin color, a different sexual orientation. I would hope that you respect and love because everyone is different. Don’t judge people on the religion, their skin color, their sexual orientation, whatever they may be. So I really hope you take it a step further and please don’t judge people on what they believe politically because we’re all different. Everybody has their own personal views. And we should all love each other and respect that is what makes the nation (and the world) go around. I see some of these hateful posts on Facebook and it really does upset me just because again I’ve never seen us so divided. So please love your fellow person. And don’t start to hate people based on their political views or their religious views. That’s really bad in my opinion. Let’s try to love.

I’m going to end this show today with love. Because you know something? I love you! You know something else? I will see you next week! I’m Dr. Dave…

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173 – Depressed in Motel Rooms, Animals, and MORE

Hey there! It’s Dr. Dave the “V”. That stands for David the vegan. Welcome back to The David Madow Lifestyle Show. I am still in Breckenridge, Colorado recording this live for you. It’s going to be a great show today. Remember this is the show where I help YOU live stronger, thinner, healthier, and happier.

I’ve got a great one and the reason it’s a great one is because we’re going to be doing another 3 questions. This is when I go on Facebook and say I am going to take the first 3 questions and I will answer them no matter what they are. It’s going to be a little bit different because I have 4. #3 and #4 came in so close so to be fair I will answer 4 today. So let’s get going. This is going to be a packed show. You’re going to love it!

1. How do you deal with violence against animals on a personal level? – Blooms Day

That’s a great question! Number 1 , I’d say the biggest thing that I do is that I don’t consume animals. I do not participate in animal agriculture, I do not consume animals, I do not wear animals, and I do not go and see animals for my entertainment.

And by the way, I am so glad that Ringling Brothers, Barnum, & Bailey Circus is just giving up. They couldn’t make it because there’s just too much awareness and activism and people are seeing how these animals are being terribly terribly abused and suffering. And they called it quits. And I know a lot of people messaged me on Facebook and said “but Dave don’t you care about all the people there that are losing their jobs? Of course I do! I am a humanitarian. I love people. But guess what? These people can find other jobs. These people will find other jobs. They are talented people. The animals had no voice. They had no say! It was a no brainer. It had to end. And I am so glad that the circus is ending.

That’s probably the primary way that I deal with violence against animals. I am vegan and I do not use animals for food, clothing, or entertainment.

About 16 or 17 years ago, I rescued 3 cats that were outside in the cold. I brought them in and gave them a wonderful home and they’re still our cats. Their names are Phil, Ackley, and Jade. I think animal rescue is a really great thing. I did it. And there are only so many animals that we can take care of at one time. So I’ve got 3 that I rescued and saved their lives.

I give money to animal charities. I also try to educate others. I don’t force my being vegan down other people’s throats. I am not the kind of person that says you better be vegan or I am not going to like you or respect you. I don’t do that. I lead by example. People see that I am approaching 62 years old and I am pretty damn healthy looking. And that’s because I don’t eat animals. I just kinda throw little hints out there that it’s the best way to live. And a lot of people follow me. To this day, I think I am responsible for turning on about 110-120 people to become vegan.

So Bloom’s, great question! And I hope I answered that really thoroughly for you.

2. What attracted you to Breckenridge? – Jason Powell

For those of you that don’t know, I love Breckenridge, Colorado. I come out here at least twice per year with my wife Yoko. We’re here right now. We spend a good month plus here in the winter and a good couple weeks (at least) in the summer. What attracted me to this area was originally skiing. I love skiing and I want to come out here more to get better and better. Probably about 8 years ago, I was a decent intermediate skier. And I just felt like the only way that I was going to get better was to come out here and ski for a month straight every winter. And I did! And I got better at the blacks and the double blacks and the expert slopes. I’m still not the best person on the mountain, trust me. But I can hold my own. I’m decent. So I love the skiing out here.

But, what I have found when I am in Breckenridge, is that being outdoors in the mountains we don’t drive a lot here. Everything is within walking distance. I get exercise every day. Whether it’s walking to the chair lift, walking through town. The other day for the very first time in my life, I actually cross country skied and snowshoed in the same day. And we like to hike. And in the summer, Yoko and I like to do a lot of hiking and we do a race or two every season here. By the way, a half marathon in the mountains is very very difficult. And we like to hike up 14’ers. A 14’er is a mountain whose altitude is 14,000 feet plus. Let me tell you something. Try hiking up a 14’er at some point. It is not easy. The air is thin. It’s usually pretty steep, and rocky, and slippery. But you should try it! There is no such thing as an easy 14’er. It just doesn’t exist. There is no such thing as easy when hiking up a 14’er. But I think a good beginner’s 14’er would be Mt. Quandary just outside of Breckenridge. Very easy access to get there from Breckenridge. I wouldn’t do it in the winter. I would do it in the summer months only. During the summer you really should pay attention and be off of the exposed area of the mountain by noon. Because if you are on the peak at the summit when lightning strikes, you’ve got some problems. Time it so that you can start early in the morning and you are off the peak noon.

So when I come out here, I just find that I eat healthier, I lose weight, it’s kind of like a cleanse. I think toxins build up when I am living on the East coast. They just do. But when I am out in Breckenridge, I am able to catch up with better eating and exercising everyday. Losing a little bit of weight that I may have put on while on the East coast.

That’s why we love it here! The sheer beauty of what’s going on here.

So Jason, I hope that answered your question. Thanks for asking that.

3. Amalgam or composite? – Jarrod Thomas

As most of you know, I am a dentist by profession. I don’t practice dentistry anymore but I am trained as a dentist. I am licensed as a dentist. And I am also a dental motivational speaker in addition to what I am doing here with The David Madow Lifestyle Show. So I think this question came from a dentist 😉

Amalgam are the old time silver mercury fillings that we used to put in people’s teeth. They look dark and grey and are made of metal. Composite is a tooth colored plastic resin filling that is bonded to the tooth instead of being shoved into the tooth like an amalgam.

This is not a dental podcast but since he asked this, it’s very interesting. To this day, there’s a lot of controversy out there. There are dentists that believe that every person should have all amalgam taken out of their mouth because it’s toxic and it’s dangerous. And even if the amalgam (mercury/silver) was placed in your mouth 20 years, some people are saying that you’ve got to get it out because it’s leeching mercury vapor and is possibly causing all kinds of possible medical issues, disease, etc.

Now, I don’t have the answer to that. If I were a practicing dentist today, I would absolutely not be doing any mercury fillings for sure. But would I be taking them out of everybody’s mouth that has them if they’ve been there for 20 years and look fantastic? I’m not so sure. There are two camps. Some docs say you’ve got to get them all out and others say no if they’re not causing any problems and there no leaking and there’s no decay around them, leave them.

So I am not sure. I don’t have the answer. Some of the smartest people on both sides make excellent arguments. So I just don’t know. In my mouth, I think I have one tiny amalgam filling. Am I going to get that ripped out and have it replaced? I don’t know. I haven’t done it yet. We’ll see.

There’s some compelling stories though from people that say they had all kinds of problems and once they replaced them with composite fillings, they say their problems all went away. So I don’t know. Who am I to say? But thanks so much for that question Jerrod!

4. How long did it take to rebuild your life when when you were going through the worst of times in a motel room? – Mallory Henderson

Many of you know, if you’re regular listeners, back in 2000 or 2001 I left a marriage that was a 23 year marriage. It wasn’t working for me. I’m not here to bad mouth anybody. That’s not what I do. But let’s just say, it was bad for me and there were some serious issues. If I stayed in that marriage, I don’t know what would have happened to me. I might have died one day soon prematurely because it wasn’t working for my health, for my body, for my psychological make-up. There were some bad things going on. I will say that.

So I left the situation. As Mallory indicated, I was kind of homeless because I didn’t have a place to go. So I found a motel room several miles from where we lived and I just checked in and lived there. I can’t really remember how long but fortunately a lot of that part of my life is just blacked out. And that’s maybe a good thing.

Suffice it to say, I was miserable. I lived in this motel room. I had a car a remember that it was winter so it was cold and snowy and sleeting outside. I would drive to work from this motel room to my office every day. I was depressed and it was just horrible.

There came a point where I knew I couldn’t stay in the motel room any longer. That just wasn’t working at all. So I found a townhouse that I rented. I think I signed a 1 year lease. And I moved in. It was fully furnished but to me the furnishings were to me really depressing and ugly. It wasn’t a super clean place. But at least it wasn’t a motel room.

But I was just depressed there. I felt bad. A lot of the people that I thought would support me when I was in my marriage, turned out to be fake friends. They weren’t really true friends. My true friends stuck with me through bad times as well as of course the good times. You think they are really your friends but when times get tough you find out they are not.

So I was in this depressing townhouse. My phone wasn’t really ringing a lot. I wasn’t talking to a lot of people. It was very tough for me. But I started going out a bit and seeing some people and getting involved with some things. There was never really a distinct date on the calendar. Over time, the feeling of being alone and being depressed and feeling worthless eventually went away. Just trying to be social and have some fun, my life started to get better and better and better. One of the most important things is that I found that it’s not about other people. I found out that I really didn’t love myself.

I had a lot of time to sit alone in that depressing townhouse and contemplate, meditate, think and learn how to truly feel comfortable within. I learned to like and love myself. And that took a lot. That was difficult! Because in the past I would always go with the program, go with the flow. I wasn’t really mindful of my whole life. I was going with the flow in my marriage. I knew in my heart it wasn’t right but I didn’t know what to do. So I just kept doing it. I got out of it but it took a lot of rebuilding time.

Probably after about a year of being in this townhouse, I was riding my bike one day about 4 miles away in a really cool rural area. And I found this house that said “open house”. So I parked my bike down  on the driveway and walked into the house and I said to myself “this is my house. I want to buy this house. This house is going to make me feel good.” Well, a house can’t make you feel good because you still have to feel good within. You have to love yourself. I can’t stress that enough. That is the most important thing. You have to love yourself. But when you come home everyday to a house that’s yours, and clean, furnished the way you like, and has your own music through a system that you installed, and you can do things like cook your own food, you start to feel a lot better.

So Mallory, I love that question and appreciate it. I could talk forever on this. But since that you asked that question, I sense that you might be going through something yourself. Some advice is to realize that it doesn’t happen overnight but you will get better. The situation will improve. You will meet better people. You will feel better about yourself. I guarantee that! I have been through all of this. I have been through hell where I thought wow, if my life continues like this I know my health would have went downhill. It would have been a disaster. So I made the change not knowing what’s going to be on the other side. People stay in the same relationship or they stay in the same job even though they don’t like it but it’s at least comfortable. It’s a known entity and they are not sure what’s on the other side. But let me tell you something. The other side is usually a lot better. If you are in a situation that you know in your heart is not right and you feel it in your gut every day. I promise you the other side will be better. Will it happen right away, no probably not. Will it take a little bit of time? Absolutely!

I can speak to this because I have been through all this. It’s been a good 16+ years now since I left a 23 year marriage and I wouldn’t want it any other way right now. There’s just no way. If somebody said to me, “Dave I will pay you 5 million dollars to go back into that situation.” I would say “screw you![Dave laughs] There’s no flipping way. There’s not enough money in the world. So I hope that illustrates how important it is to make that decision in a situation that’s really bad. I am not a proponent of divorce. I don’t tell people to go out and get divorced. Divorce is tough. It’s difficult. It’s not fun. There’s some people that might stop liking you. There’s still one family out there. I am not mentioning any names but they still despise me because this family felt that I should have remained in the marriage my entire life no matter what. They hate me. [Dave laughs]

Does it sound like a care? My life is great! I found a wonderful woman who respects me and who understands me. And who understands my family. So no, there’s not enough money in the entire world to make me go back into a toxic situation. So I beg you. You know in your heart the right thing to do.

Mallory, great question. And I really hope it not only helped you but that it helped a lot of people out there.

Hey guys, I’ll see you next week! I’m Dr. Dave and I will see you next I promise. You take care!

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172 – Tips From Breck

Hey there! It’s Dr. Dave and welcome back to The David Madow Lifestyle Show. It’s the show where I help you live stronger, longer, thinner, healthier, and happier!

If I sound like I’m a little out of breath, I’m really not. This is our first episode this season from Breckenridge, Colorado. Beautiful Breckenridge! Where there are mountains and snow and skiers and snowboarders and people and outdoors activities and fun. For the town itself, the elevation is 9600 feet. So even in the town just sleeping, you’re at almost 2 miles of elevation. And then once you get up on the mountain to ski, all bets are off. They have a chair lift here that brings you to just a tad under 13,000 feet in elevation. So do the math on that. The oxygen is very thin. The air is very thin here.

So I am walking outside. You might be able to hear the snow crunching under my feet. I love it here. I am here with my wife, Yoko. We come every season. We come in the winter and we come in the summer. We would like to live here and we will eventually.

What we love about it is that we don’t have to drive anywhere. Once we’re here, we pretty much walk wherever we want to go. What happens is you start to feel better. It’s almost like a forced exercise. A forced healthy lifestyle. We ski during the day. I do work and my writing. I have my laptop here and get on conference calls. I do all these things. But a lot of times during the day we are out skiing on the mountain or walking through town.

So anyway, we’re here for a while and I’ll probably be doing the next few episodes from beautiful Breckenridge, Colorado. If you’re in the area, send me an email or a message and come through and visit. I would love to have you and hang out with you. I would love to get a cup of coffee or tea with you so let me know if you’re around.

The first thing I want to share with you is actually pretty interesting. The first day I went out on the mountain. It had not snowed for a while so there was not a whole bunch of powder. So you are kinda skiing on “groomed” packed snow if that makes any sense to you. As I was skiing down the mountain, I remembered that in that kind of snow my skis didn’t really perform that well. I was kind of slipping and sliding all over the place, whereas other people seemed to be doing fine. I just felt like I was sliding too much. My skis do really well through powder and at the top of the mountain and things like that. But for a normal type of skiing, I just felt that they could do better.

So I went to a local ski shop here and I demoed a pair of skis. I wanted skis that would allow me to pretty much ski all over the mountain. So I started doing a lot of reading. It said that I should try much shorter skis. Much shorter than most of the people in the stores would recommend.

So I went into a ski shop and the first lady said, “oh no you shouldn’t do that. That’s not going to be good.” And I pretty much thought to myself that my gut was telling me that I wanted some shorter skis.

So I went into another place and I worked with a guy for about 45 minutes and he showed me skis. He was a really nice guy named Matt. And he totally got it! He totally understood that you can do pretty well on short skis. Let’s give it a shot!

So I took these out on the mountain the next day. And let me tell you something. It was like night and day between what I had been skiing on and these new skis that I was demoing. It was like night and day. I felt like I could ski on anything. In the past I was slipping and sliding, but now I felt so comfortable. It was like starting a new skiing career over. I am thinking to myself these things are awesome. I demoed them for another day and I ended up buying them.

Yes, I know I am a minimalist. I don’t get a lot of stuff. This is just one thing. I ski so much and just wanted to have the right equipment. And I wanted to have something that was right for me.

So I started thinking. What else is in our lives that we kind of are putting up with but might not be the best for us? We know in our heart that it’s not right, but we’re too reluctant to change. It could be anything. Think along with me. What could it be? Maybe you’ve been sleeping on a mattress and the mattress is old and is causing lower back pain. And it’s not helping your back. It’s not helping your sleep and you’re getting a horrible night’s sleep. Maybe if you did a little research and bought a new mattress, you will say “I cannot believe I have been sleeping on that other mattress for 5 years!” Because that’s basically what I had been saying about these skis. Because the newer ones are so much better.

Think about anything you might have that for some reason you feel is not working out for you very well and if you only changed it there would be a big difference in the way that product or item works. Maybe it could change your life depending on what it is. Just think about it.

For 3 years I thought that slipping and sliding was the way it was supposed to be but I knew it was not. Because as I saw everybody else around me they didn’t seem to be slipping and sliding like I was.

So I bought these skis. But I want to share something with you about when I bought these skis. I recently went to a seminar. There was a guy on the stage and he was explaining to the audience how to really connect with people. And how to pretty much get something that you want. Not by taking advantage of anyone of doing any harm but how to have an advantage if you’re in a business negotiation or something like that. What he explained was something called C.I.A. “C” stands for compliment, the “I” stands for introduce, and the “A” stands for ask. So this guy said that whenever you are in a situation such as a business situation or you’re meeting someone new or people you don’t know and you don’t know how to really start a conversation, the first thing you do is to go up to a person or a group of people and throw a compliment out there.

So for example, you are at the ski lodge and you’re by yourself. You don’t know anyone around but maybe you want to meet some people. You see a group of people sitting there having lunch. So you look at them and the first thing you say to them is “Hey, you guys look like a fun group here.” Now that sounds a little forced. But imagine going up to a group of people and saying “Hey it looks like you guys are having fun.” Nobody would ever question that. People love to hear that said about themselves or a group.

The next thing you do is to introduce yourself. And then quickly ask a question. “Hey do you guys know where’s the best place on the mountain to ski some powder?” And all of a sudden you are accepted into this group and 30 seconds ago you didn’t even know them. Remember C.I.A.

So say you are a single guy looking for a single woman and you walk into a bar. You could do the same thing. It’s a good way to meet people and it doesn’t look like it’s forced or look phony. Nobody minds being complimented.

The reason I am bringing this up is that I wanted to share an example with you. I used this technique when I bought my pair of skis. You see I just saw this guy on stage a little while ago and I’m also reading one of his books. And I said I’m gonna try this out. What I wanted to do was to see if I could get the best possible deal on the skis. Again nothing unethical or illegal but I wanted to get the best possible deal.

So when I went into the store after I demoed the skis there was another guy, not the guy I dealt with already. So I thought I am going to try it out on this guy. He asked if he could help me and I said “No, I’m waiting for Matt. Matt’s been helping me.” So after a little while and a little small talk, I figured I was going to try it. So I said “It looks like you love working here. This looks like so much fun! Am I right?” And he looked at me and said, “Yeah I’m having too much fun! This is great, right?!”  And then I took my hand out and shook his hand and said, “Hi, my name is Dave.”

I was going to take it to the next level and ask him for help with my skis to really swing a deal but this guy didn’t look like the right kind of guy to be honest. To be honest with you the guy looked stoned. He looked a little out of it and I didn’t want to start up a financial conversation about my skis. It’s legal to buy weed and smoke weed in Colorado so this guy wasn’t doing anything illegal. But it’s probably not the coolest thing to be stoned at work. I don’t think the boss would have liked that too much. I just didn’t think this was the guy. But I was all ready to try that – C.I.A. Compliment, introduce, and ask a question. My question would have been “I’m interested in the skis. I am a regular here and refer lots of customers. What’s the best price you can get me?” But I didn’t ask the stoned guy.

Here’s what I did. When my guy Matt was ready (he was working with another customer), we started talking. He already knew me so I didn’t have to introduce. I think I did throw him a compliment. I thanked him very much and told him that he had been so helpful and that I appreciated him taking the time to work with me. And then I went right into my little spiel. I said, “Hey, let’s price this out. I want to let you know that I am a local who is here all winter and I have referred a lot of people and bought a lot of stuff here. So what’s the best price you can do?” He looked at me and thought for a second and said “Hmmm, don’t tell anybody this because I really shouldn’t be doing this but I am going to give you 20% off.” I look at him and said “20% off of everything? The skis, the bindings, everything?” And he said “Yeah, I’ll give you 20% off everything.” So I look at him and said “I think that’s really fair. Thank you very much!”

So there are a few lessons here. C.I.A. You can meet somebody new, you can negotiate. In business transactions I am very fair, but I also think it’s fair to ask for the best price. Don’t necessarily pay retail. I’ve found that at almost every place that you buy something you can make a deal with them. People think that you can only deal with car dealers and no one else negotiates. You can negotiate almost everywhere. You don’t have to be obnoxious. You don’t have to be a jerk about it. You can just say something kind of like I said in the ski shop. Nothing I said was untrue. I don’t want you to think you should lie or deceive somebody when trying to strike a deal. But there’s nothing wrong with letting somebody know how many people you’ve referred. And that you kind of expect a little deal in return. There’s nothing wrong with that. You’d be surprised how many people come back and say “we just had a sale two weeks ago, let me give you that price.”

Here’s another example. Yoko and I went into a running store called Vertical Runner which, by the way, is North America’s highest running store at an elevation of 9600 feet. Yoko was going to buy 2 pairs of running shoes. So we went in there and Yoko was trying on some trail shoes. And the trail shoes were on sale at a great price. And when something is on sale for a great price, you don’t have to necessarily have to try to get it lower and lower. But the running shoes were fairly expensive. and I even said “Wow that’s a lot of money.” And so immediately the woman who worked there, her name was Molly, she said “let me tell you something, we just had women’s night and I think we gave everyone 20% off so I am going to give you 20% off.” That was just by asking. There’s nothing wrong with it. Don’t be afraid. Don’t be ashamed. The best business people negotiate and get the absolute best prices.

So I think that’s kind of it. I am excited to be here. I am excited to take some of the pounds off that I gained on the East coast because my leg is hurting a little bit. No it’s not the same leg, it’s a different leg. I was playing catch with my son in law about a month ago and took a fall. My leg has been hurting since so I am trying to nurse that a little bit. So when I was back in Maryland, I wasn’t able to do my running and walking as much as I should have and I put on a few pounds. I am not proud of that at all.

But here I am eating healthier. I always eat vegan. I never make exceptions. But there was some processed junk I started throwing in the mix back in Maryland. I shouldn’t have but I did. But here, I’m healthier, I’m moving my body a lot more, skiing on the mountain, walking pretty much every day. On the second full day here, I already noticed. I got on the scale and I’ve already noticed the pounds coming off. Because it is a healthy lifestyle here! You can live a healthy lifestyle wherever you are. Sometimes when you get an injury, it’s tough. My spirits are high. My attitude is great! And I’m going to do the best I can. You know why? Because I’m Dr. Dave and I’ll see you next week!

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171 – Travelling and Not Quitting

Hey there it’s Dr. D the “V!” What’s going on? Welcome back to The David Madow Lifestyle Show! I’m Dr. Dave. And I welcome you. Thanks so much for being here.

Right now I am recording from my outdoor studio right smack in the middle of Manhattan. That’s right New York City. I’m actually right in the middle of a lot of action. You’re gonna hear cars, you’re gonna hear trucks, you’re gonna hear buses, you’re gonna hear horns, you’re gonna hear loud people, but this is where the action is and I love it. And sometimes I like to be totally in solitude like on a 7 day backpack trip where no other human beings are around.

Figure this out. So what is it that I like. Do I like solitude? Do I like a busy city? I normally don’t like cities all that much except there are a few favorite ones that I just love traveling to. I happened to be here for a meeting yesterday and New York happens to be one of my favorites in the world. So when I get a chance to come here, I try to stay an extra day or so and combine it with some pleasure. I would recommend it. If you are listening to me from anywhere on this planet, if you have not visited Manhattan ever in your life or its been a long time, I recommend that you come take a look. There’s so much going on. So many cool people.

But there’s anything you want. And as you know I am trying to minimalize my life. I don’t go shopping anymore. You could come here and spend a fortune on shopping and get some great deals. But the only thing I have bought here over the last 2 1/2 days is food. No clothes, no electronic gadgets, no shoes, nothing. Nothing except food.

I am able to save extra money like that. When you don’t have that lifestyle where you’re always worried about buying something such as a new car or jewelry. I do make an exception for jewelry but the only jewelry that I wear are my beads from Desmond. I wear 3 beads that are full of energy – 3 beaded bracelets. And those are the only jewelry that I wear. I have no gold on, no expensive watch. Oh I have a Fitbit watch. So the only jewelry that I ever wear are my beaded bracelets on my right wrist and my beaded bracelets on my left wrist.

How’s your year coming so far? Can you believe that it’s already the middle of January. Things are going to go fast. I’m warning ya. So if there’s something that you want to do. Including visiting Manhattan. If there’s something that you want to do, whatever it might be; taking a trip, starting a new hobby, writing a book, writing a blog, whatever it might be. I’m going to give you some advice. Don’t hesitate! Don’t procrastinate! Just do it! Nike made millions with that slogan and I hope it’s ok that I stole it but just do it! Don’t worry about making mistakes. You will make some mistakes! Maybe if you’re starting something at the beginning, whatever it might be. Be really bad it. I was bad at so many things. I’m bad at things now as well. But the difference is I just did things.

I want to share a little story with you. I don’t think I’ve spoken about this on a previous episode. But sometimes they just run together and I forget what I talked about a few months ago. Not that I forget the podcasts but I forget if I’ve said something. So I don’t think I’ve said this before.

So here’s what I did. This goes back to the mid to late 1980’s. So a long time ago. I was a practicing dentist and I had an idea that I wanted to do something else. I wasn’t really sure what but I wanted to start another business and I truly had no idea what it was going to be.

Back in those days you had to go to the printer if you wanted to get cards or other stationary made up. These days anybody with a computer or online access can have business cards made up or letterhead or whatever with a logo. But back in those days you had to go to the printer.

So I went to the printer and I had a 1000 business cards made up with a totally made up business name. I still remember what it was to this day. I called myself DMM Management Consultants. It stood for David Michael Madow. I had my address and phone number on them. Back then there were really no fax machines yet or email, so I just had DMM Management Consultants, my name, my address, and my phone number.

Now if you were to ask me what the heck DMM Management Consultants did, I had no idea. But this is really weird. I started handing my card out to people. I didn’t even know what I wanted to do but I knew it was something. So management consultants is kind of a vague enough term. You can do a lot of different things. You could just be a consultant and help people with a lot of things. And remember I was a practicing dentist and I was pretty good with business as well.

So I started handing my card out, and as I started handing my card out and people asked me what I did, I started coming up with different things that I could do in this DMM Management Consultant business. As it turned out I had an idea a few months later to start selling a business form which I did and I started selling them by direct mail. That was like the first thing that DMM Management Consultants did. It worked. It’s the most bizarre thing because like I said when I first started I had no idea what I was going to do. This led to more things and different businesses. And that was kind of the start to my entrepreneurial career. Learning that if you want to do something, don’t flippin’ procrastinate. And don’t worry about if you’re good at it or not.

Back when I was younger, I tried my best to play the guitar. I just sucked, I was horrible. The biggest problem was that if someone said to me “Dave, you’re not good” or something like that, I took it very personally and I put the guitar down. And same thing with singing.

I think I told you this story before but I remember one time somebody told me that my singing always sounded too high. And I didn’t like that so I stopped singing. This is when I was a little kid. I picked up the guitar here and there a little bit and tried to take some lessons but I always kinda sucked and I never did much with the guitar. And I never really did much with singing until I became much older.

I tried it again when I was with my brother Rich. At first I totally sucked. I am sure I sounded horrible. To this day I have sung on stage solo, or with Rich, or with people in front of tens of thousands of people. Some small audiences and some audiences with as many as 5000 people.

The point is, I tried this. I tried it and I was not worried about how much I sucked. And now I do it for a living partly. When I speak at seminars and conferences with my brother Rich, I am on stage playing guitar and singing. And when I do my “10 Ways to Supercharge Your Life” at vegan conferences and veg fests, I oftentimes play my song that I wrote called Vegan on A Jet Plane and I play the guitar. And no I am not fantastic, and no I’m not a great singer, but I get standing ovations for this thing. So my point is not to talk about me and my guitar and my singing.

And by the way, when I first became a public speaker, I was horrible. I had no confidence. I was reading from slides. I was reading from cue cards and notes and it was horrible. I am surprised audiences didn’t get up and walk out. I’m really surprised. But they were courteous and they gave me extra energy to get better and better and better.

So what is it that you want to do? You know in your heart. What do you want to try? Whatever it is. A business, a hobby, a writer, a speaker like me teaching others, whatever it is; please just do it. Please don’t hesitate.

But this isn’t what I was going to talk to you about today. Since I am in New York, I was going to talk to you about traveling, how easy it is, and how you can do it for cheap.

So let me just share with you a few things that I always bring with me when I travel. First of all, when I travel generally it’s to someplace like New York. I will go on some place like hotels.com and find myself a good deal. Like I said during my Hippie Road Trip, you can go to hotels.com or use the app called Hotel Tonight. You can find some really good deals. I am not saying its 100%. Where I am staying in the middle of Manhattan, I got a room for $67 per night. You heard that right. I know there’s a lot of noise in the background here so you may have thought I misspoke. But no, you heard that right. And it was a nice room. Was it a 5 star hotel? Absolutely not! But was it clean and nice and in a good location? Yes!  You can do this. You can’t do it all the time. Sometimes the city is sold out and it’s more difficult. But you can do it.

I carry a lot of my own food. Granted when I am here in New York, I love to go to the vegan restaurants and check them out. Which I’ve done so far here. But I also save a lot of money on food because when I first get to a city, I find a good natural grocery store. Here’s what I do for breakfast. I’ll get some strawberries and carry them back to my room. I wash them off and cut up the strawberries. I will then get my shaker bottle. I usually carry packets of organic instant oatmeal with no sugar added. I’ll open up a packet or a packet and a half and put it in the shaker bottle. I’ll then add a little protein powder. If you’ve been listening to me for a long time, you’ll know I love MRM Protein Powder. I’ll add that to the mix. Just a couple of tablespoons. I’ll add some chia seed, flax seed, or hemp seed. And I’ll top it off with a nice portion of almond milk. About 8 to 10 ounces. I shake that all up and let it sit for about 10 minutes. The almond milk will soak into the oatmeal really well. You don’t have to cook oatmeal. I never knew this. But you can have oatmeal totally raw and it’s fine. So I let it sit for about 5 or 10 minutes. Then you’ve got yourself a nice breakfast. And it’s really inexpensive. And it’s healthier than anything you’re going to get at a diner. I promise you. I promise! It’s great!

And I bring rice crackers and almond butter. But there is something that I always carry with me that is indispensable. I am going to urge you to get this. You can get this on Amazon or at a local Asian market. Locally, in the Maryland area, check out HMart. Look for a Korean spoon. Korean spoons are longer than the typical spoons we are used to [in the U.S.]. They come in either metal or wood. I prefer wood just because it feels really good in my hand. And I carry this Korean spoon so that I can scoop out a big thing of almond butter and put it on a cracker or I can eat anything with it. I actually just used it for my breakfast that I just described to you because as it gets down low sometimes you have to use a longer spoon sometimes. It’s an instrument that I use all the time when I travel, even something that you normally need a fork for. You can use this as a fork. I love it! Go on Amazon or if you’re fortunate enough to have a really nice Asian market, especially a Korean market. 

Something else that I love is that I will go to a Wegman’s or someplace like that and get these chickpea snacks. They are dried chickpeas that are seasoned. They come in bag. And I know in the past I have said to beware of anything that comes in a bag because chances are it’s processed. I guess you could probably call this processed. But they are whole organic chickpeas, they’re just dried and spiced up a little bit. Picture that as a snack you put your hands into, it is wonderful! I carry these wherever I go. I carry almonds. You can also carry break if you like. I’m kinda on a gluten free kick. And I’ll explain why in a future episode. I’m not a 100% gluten free but I’m eliminating wheat and things like. I’m going to see if it makes a differences guys and I will report back to you. I’ve got a couple things that I want to see improved so that’s why I am kinda eliminating the bread, the wheat, and the gluten for now. I’ll get back to you and let you know how it goes.

I used to carry like a whole briefcase that had my connections, and little gadgets, and wires but now I carry one REI backpack. I’ve used a lot of backpacks for travel and this is the best one I’ve ever had. I’m thinking it was probably in the $80 to $90 range. It holds a really nice container of water. It has 3 sections. One I use for food, and I use for electronic type gadgets like this portable microphone and recorder I am recording on now. I always have it with me in my backpack. Always. And another thing I always carry with me is…? You know! What am I going to say? It’s my book of goals. It’s always with me in my backpack or my back pocket. It’s in a small pocket sized notebook. I have my book of goals and I read them every single day.

As I started off the show, I said if there’s something you want to do in your life don’t procrastinate. Put it down on your list of goals and read it every single day. I’m sure it’s going to make it easier for you to get it going.

Those are some of the things that I carry when I travel and I really am able to save a lot of money. Because again I eat a lot of food and snacks in the hotel room or when I’m walking around. But I do like to go to dinner if I’m in a different area and sample vegan restaurants. But I do not go to very expensive ones either. I just don’t feel the need to have to spend a lot of money. Last evening, I was down in Chinatown in a place called Buddha Bodai for dinner. I was by myself. I ordered a main course and it came with tea and the whole thing cost me like $9.95. I also left a tip so it came to a few bucks more than that. You can eat healthy and not have to spend a lot of money for it. You can do it. I am doing it. I’m saving the difference. I’m putting it away. I’m investing it.

And I think we’re due pretty soon for a financial show especially since we are at the beginning of the year. I want to share some things and reinforce some things about money and finances. Because again it’s all about the lifestyle. And if you’re not stressed financially, you’re healthier generally. And your marriage is better generally if you’re not stressed financially. You’ll be setting yourself up for a better life as things come up so I want to help you with that as well. I don’t want to see any of you stressed over finances. And I see a very very high percentage of people in first world countries that are stressed over financial concerns. And it’s funny how I said that – first world countries. But we’ve got our own set of problems. We have a lot of wonderful things here. Think of all the convenient things we have in all these first world countries. But somebody in a third world country is most likely not stressed out over paying off a credit card bill or how they’re going to pay their mortgage or their cable. They’re stressed out over other things like where am I going to get clean water but they’re not stressed out over going bankrupt.

Isn’t it strange? Isn’t kinda weird the way things work? Isn’t it kinda crazy? But I am going to say it’s good. Know what else I am going to say? I am going to say…see you next week! I’m Dr. Dave, Dr. D the “V” with The David Madow Lifestyle Show. I really appreciate you!

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170 – My Three Questions

Hello there! It’s Dr. D the “V”, David Madow. Welcome back to another episode of The David Madow Lifestyle Show. I’m so happy to be back with you for another incredible episode. Today we are going to be doing a show called “My Three Questions.” On Facebook I said that the first three people to ask me questions, whatever they are, I will answer them. And I did that a few weeks ago and it turned out great! I got a bunch of messages from people saying that they really liked the episode and that it was really cool.

So about a week ago, I did another one. And I think you’re really going to enjoy it. I’ve got three really really good ones.

First thing I want to do before we get into them is that I want to welcome new listeners, old listeners, whoever you may be. I really appreciate you! I think over the past few episodes I have neglected to say it to you. If you need me for anything, you can always reach me. My email address is simply dave@davidmadow.com. I always say that if you know my name, which I think you do now, you can find me online anywhere – Facebook, Twitter, Periscope, Instagram, wherever I may be hanging. So I really appreciate you and let’s get right into this episode.

My Three Questions

Question: How do you maintain a positive attitude when everything around you is falling apart? Terri – Maryland

Answer: Terri, first I want to start off my answer by saying, Terri I am so sorry you feel that everything is falling apart. But I am going to disagree with you. Everything is not falling apart. You know how I know that Terri? Because you were able to type this on a computer and transmit is all over the internet. I know you’ve got a computer, you have internet which you are most likely paying for, you likely have a home that is heated, and you’re putting food on the table I’m guessing.

Here’s the thing, a lot of times we feel like we are falling apart and I have felt like this too so I can speak from experience. We go through a bad phase of life; whether it’s a divorce or whether it’s the loss of a job or a health problem, or anything like that. And your mind makes it feel like everything is falling apart. But then you take a stop back and it’s really not. Terri you’re living, you’re breathing, you’re eating, you’re sleeping, you’re doing all the things that human beings do and I just don’t think that we should be in the mindset that everything is falling apart. Do you have struggles? Do you have challenges? Ok, sure! Terri, I do too and probably every single person listening to this episode today has some type of struggles. Some are worse than others. Some are bad and some are not so bad. And maybe you’re going through a really tough time now. If you are Terri, I’m really sorry, I feel bad. But let’s see if we can straighten you out today.

So let’s say that you lost a job (I’m just making this up right now, for all I now that’s not your problem). And it seems that you have little money coming in if any and you have bills to pay. And you’re struggling with that and it’s hard to find a new job because things are tough out there. Let’s just say that’s the case. Maybe it’s getting you down and you feel depressed. I’ve talked about this in the past and on fairly recent episodes. We ALL tend to feel down sometimes. We all tend to feel sad or depressed. Especially this time of year when the days are short and it’s cold out. It’s gloomy and the sun is not as bright as it usually is in the spring and summer. I gave some tips on this in Episode #167 and I hope you go back and listen to them. I wouldn’t give these tips if I didn’t think they work. I know they work.

Not that long ago I was going through a little bit of a tough time myself. I was kind of sad at some points. And I realized, what am I doing differently? For some reason, I got out of the habit of meditating every day like I’ve been doing for a couple years now. Somehow it just slipped away and I got into other things. As soon as I got back and started meditating, almost immediately, I started feeling better. I started to feel more upbeat. And not only that when I meditate I have all kinds of ideas that come into my mind. First of all there’s not way it can hurt you. I’ve never heard of anybody that’s been hurt while meditating. So Terri, I recommend every day or even a couple time a day, sitting down in a comfortable position and putting on relaxing music for 15 minutes at a time. Just concentrate on your breathing – in, out, in, out. You’ll be surprised that when you start doing this every day you’ll feel more at peace with yourself and you’ll start getting ideas. Things are going to come to your mind that are maybe going to help your situation that you’re in right now.

Another thing I would do is to move your body as much as you possibly can right now. I don’t know how you can move your body or what kind of situation you are in but anything you can do to move your body somewhat is better than nothing.

And if you haven’t done this yet, I would cut out animal products from your diet. I know I have said this before and some people don’t believe me but I swear to you that this is true. When you’re consuming animals, you are consuming suffering and sadness. And you’re eating those cells and they are being incorporated into your bodily cells. Again, you are not going to lose anything by trying this. I’ve been through this, I’ve done this, it works!!

So try these things Terri and if you need me for anything feel free to write back and I can help you some more. But I feel that you’re going to turn around. Just remember your whole world is not falling apart. Yeah you’re going through a struggle now. We all have done that. We all have felt that before. And some of us are going through it right now. But I promise you Terri, your world is not falling apart. You have people that love you. You know that. Am I right about that? Plenty of people on this planet love you! So hold your head high and keep your chin up in the air. You’re going to be ok, Terri. I promise!

Question: You mentioned in a Facebook comment not too long ago that you had to beg, borrow, and steal to start your dental practice. What did you steal? Steve – Oklahoma

Answer: [Dave laughs] That is a great question Steve! Um, what did I steal? Well, actually it’s an expression. I did beg a lot and I borrowed a LOT but I don’t think I stole anything. As a matter of fact, I am pretty sure I didn’t steal anything because I believe in living my life the right way and part of that is thou shall not steal. And I really don’t steal. I try to be as ethical as possible. I would never even get into a business venture with anybody I felt wasn’t doing them any good. I would never do something for money if I thought the other person wasn’t getting a really good product or a deal or something. First of all, when you do that, it’s basically stealing from somebody. Somebody’s hard earned money that they are paying you and they trust you to do something for them and you’re taking their money and they are not getting what they thought they would be getting.

So Steve that was a great question! I don’t steal but I want to tell you an interesting story. This goes back to my youth, probably about age 18. I had a car and this car was an AMC Hornet. I loved this thing! It was kind of a cheap piece of junk but I loved it! It was mine and I took good care of it. Not only that I learned how to tune it up and change the oil. Because back then these cars were not run by computers. Anybody could lift the hood up and could basically change their own oil and set the timing. I actually loved tinkering with this thing.

One day I needed some type of part for under the hood. So I went to the local Ames which was kind of like an early version of Target and Kmart. They had like everything there. So I am roaming around the store and I found the part that I needed. It was a tiny little part probably less than $5. I remember I picked this thing up off the shelf and I kinda looked around. And I thought to myself, I’m just going to steal this thing. I don’t want to buy it, I am just going to steal it. I don’t know why I thought that. It wasn’t the money. I had the $5 on me. But I think it was more that I was a young kid and it was a thrill since I had never done it before. I probably just wanted to see if I could get away with it. I don’t know. I don’t understand why I did that. So I looked around the store. And when I was in an aisle that didn’t look like anybody I put the thing in my pocket. And I walked around a little bit more. When it looked like no one was following me, I left the store. And I stole this little part. Again, I don’t know why I did it. But I didn’t feel good about it.

But here’s the thing. It’s the only thing I have ever stolen in my life to my recollection. I don’t think I have ever done that since. I don’t think I have ever ripped anybody off. To this day, about 40 years later, I still remember this and it’s never gonna leave me. It will be with me until the day I die. I won’t forget it. I can’t forget it. And I don’t feel good. Imagine if I did something worse than that. Imagine if I had committed some serious crime or injured or killed somebody.

And I realized maybe it was a lesson. Maybe God, or whomever you believe, was trying to tell me thou shall not steal because if you do it’s going to haunt you for the rest of your life. I can’t say it’s something I think about every single day but Steve when you wrote that question I started thinking about stealing and I did. I remember and I will never do that again. I didn’t get caught. I didn’t get in trouble. But I ripped somebody off. I did something illegal and stole from somebody. That person did not deserve to be stolen from. And here I am remembering it for the rest of my life.

Steve, great question! But yeah opening up my dental practice was kind of a tough time in my life. I did have to borrow from a lot of people and beg a lot of people. We got through it though it though. And things are ok now. Thanks for the question Steve.

Question: How do you decide to go to either go to the ends of the earth again to forgive and forget and move on from a close family member who has been very toxic in your life or that it’s best to let them fade into the sunset and end the relationship permanently? This is heavy on my heart with this being Christmas. Lori – Pennsylvania

Answer: Sorry about the timing but she wrote this around Christmas time and so it’s been a couple weeks. Lori, I am sorry that you’ve got this person that’s been weighing on you. It’s obviously causing a lot of concern, and grief, and bad feelings and you’re wondering what to do. I am not sure what this person did and I am not sure how close or not close you are with this person. But what I’ve been preaching for quite some time on my show, or on Facebook, or wherever I may be talking about this. If somebody crosses you the wrong way, if they do something wrong to you, or they’re not nice to you; then holding a grudge is not a good option.

The reason it’s not a good option is because think about what it’s doing. It’s only hurting the person that’s holding the grudge. It’s only hurting the person that’s hating. It’s only hurting the person that’s holding it into their body because the other person couldn’t care less. They might be a jerk and they don’t really care. They’re going around doing their jerky stuff and they really don’t care. So when you hold a grudge or hold hatred it’s only hurting you. It’s not hurting the other person. So people say “yeah but I can’t let this go. That person did so many bad things to me that I can’t let it go. Well, what are your options? Your options are either hold it in and have it become toxic inside of your body or let it go! Those are the options. And when those two options are available to me guess what I do. I let it go! Now that does not mean that this person has to be your best friend. It does not mean you have to hang out with this person. It does not mean that you have to invite this person over to your house.

I’ve done episode of letting go of the mf’s. You know what that stands for. Let them go! Let them go. Don’t hold any hatred or anger or bad feelings towards them but let go of all the mf’s.

So in your case Lori it sounds like to me there was someone in your family that you were contemplating getting together during Christmas or during holidays and you don’t have a good feeling when you’re with them. They’ve done some bad things or said some bad things to you. And you’re trying to figure out whether you should totally get then out of your life once and for all or have them in your life. Look, there are people in my family that I don’t feel like I am vibrating with on the same level or on the same frequency as they are. I am not saying they are bad people but when I see them I don’t have a warm fuzzy feeling. I’m cordial. I’m nice but I don’t go out of my way to make plans. And I don’t invite them over to my house. And I think that’s they way you should do it. If you’re invited to a party and that person or those people are going to be there, then it’s up to you whether you go or not. And if you go, you can be cordial. They don’t have to be your best friend. But I think as far as holding in anger or hatred, that’s where we have to let go.

So I hope that helped you Lori. The bottom line is to get rid of any anger and get rid of any hatred. Forgive! Forgive what they did to you. But they don’t have to be your best friend and you don’t have to have them over to your house. And you do not have to participate in parties or functions or whatever. If they work with you, then you’ll have to figure that out. Either get rid of them or you leave. But it didn’t sound like a work situation to me. But again my rules apply to whoever they are. If it’s your spouse, that’s a serious problem. You have to work that out or leave. And hopefully working it out is better. Even if it’s a parent. If they’re toxic, you gotta love them, but just don’t go out of your way to get together with them. I hate to say it like that but if it’s going to ruin your day every time you see them, that’s not a good thing either. I hope that helped.

Let’s do another episode like this really soon. How it works is that you can’t write in. I will put in on Facebook and say hey the first three questions, I’ll answer on my next episode. And that’s what I’ll do. I like it! And I like you!

I’ve gotta go now. So until next week. You know who I am, it’s Dr. Dave. Thank you for being a part of this show. See you next time!

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