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Hey there! How’s it going? Dr. D the “V”, David Madow. Welcoming you back to another episode of The David Madow Lifestyle Show. It’s the show where I help you live stronger, thinner, healthier, and happier!

I’ve got a great episode for you today. I’m recording live from Breckenridge, Colorado again. My home in the winter.

I want to share something with you today about your weight. It’s February now and unfortunately a lot of people have released the New Year’s resolutions. ttdx not abiding by them as carefully as they thought they would. But whether you’re thin, medium, heavy, whether you want to lose some weight, whether you want to gain some weight. Whatever you want to do; listen carefully because I am going to share my secrets. And also some of my struggles.

And by the way, if you’re brand new, I appreciate you! I appreciate you whether you’re new listener or long term but I’ve got some new listeners coming on board. So I really really appreciate the fact that you’re with me. I’m going to share some great things with you today.

But before I do so, I also want to give you a little reminder that on March 18th, 2017, I am producing the world’s 1st vegan Indian buffet dinner and open mic. It’s in Owings Mills, Maryland. It’s going to an incredible evening! And whether you’re local to the Maryland area or traveling in from out of state, there’s going to be a lot of cool people. Whether you’re vegan, whether you’re vegetarian, whether you’re just curious, or whether you’re totally an omnivore or carnivore and just want to see what this thing is all about; you are invited. It’s going to be a fun evening. And after dinner we’re going to open up the mic to anybody that’s there that wants to either tell a little story, do a little comedy, do a musical performance, whatever you may want to do. It’s going to be open for you. You don’t have to do anything. You can sit there and hang out and relax and eat and watch the show. Enjoy some good food and some good company.

For more information, check out my Facebook page. We’ve got a bunch of people going so far and hundreds interested. So this is going to prove to be a really cool evening. And if it works out well, which I have every reason to believe it will, but there will be more! And maybe we’ll travel to your hometown, who knows?! We’ll see! It’s going to be some fun.

So let’s talk about your weight. Let’s talk about my weight. I want to start off by saying we can never judge anybody by weight. Weight is a very personal thing no matter where you are in life. People want to be thinner. People want to gain weight. Some people are happy with the way they are.

But you never know really what’s going on inside of somebody and why they are the way they are. We never want to judge anybody personally. But it is true that if you want to be at an ideal weight, I think I can help you. I think I have kinda figured it out. Not without struggles. I’ve had plenty of struggles on my own as well. Not only that but due to some injuries and some other things going on.

I’ve had some struggles lately. Business is never as easy as it seems on the outside. When you own a business, there are always struggles. There’s all kinds of things. And I have found that due to an injury I had a short time ago combined with some stress from business and things like that, I had put on a few pounds back East. I probably put on 10 pounds. I made it a point to say that when I get out to Breckenridge, I am going to lose that weight. And I did! I’ve been pretty successful so far.

I’ve been here a little over 2 weeks now and I want to share with you some things I’ve done here that can be done anywhere. It’s easier here. I think because of the nature of the town because of the outdoor activities and some of the things I do. But what I’ve learned here can be done anywhere. So let me share with you some of the things I’m doing now to actually knock those pounds right off. And feel better. And look better.

When you look in the mirror or look back at old pictures, and you’re heavier than you want to be what’s the first thing that shows? It’s generally your face. And when you look in the mirror or look at old pictures and you’re heavier than you want to be, your face is generally fuller and fatter. And when the weight starts coming off and your face trims down, it’s like you’re a different person.

I have so many friends and so many people that I have helped with their weight troubles over the years and I can see before and after pictures; I have followers and friends that look like totally different people because their faces have narrowed down and they just look great. Now that doesn’t mean that if you have a full face, you look bad. No, I’m not saying that at all. But what I find is the first thing that is extremely noticeable is the face. It’s not necessarily the stomach but it’s the face. And the face really tells all.

So I want to share some of the things I am doing here in Breckenridge that have caused me to lose about 10 pounds in 2 1/2 weeks. And I am still going for a little bit more. So when I get back East, I am going to be a whole different person. I got my hair cut off and I look different. But I’m still the same Dr. Dave, trust me 😉

So in Breck, I walk everywhere we go. Right now I am on my way to the grocery store to pick some things up. Do you think I considered getting in my car? No! I’m walking. I’m walking every single day. When we travel to the ski life when we start skiing in the morning, we walk. And walking with skis over the snow is great exercise. Walking every single day is incredible exercise. At the end of the day, we ski down the mountain and walk about 10 minutes back to our place. So there’s a lot of walking and a lot of movement. What I’ve found is that a lot of time we are hanging around the house watching TV or at lunch eating and we just want to eat, eat, eat. It’s very easy to go to the fridge. It’s very easy to open up cabinets. It’s very easy to start eating and munching on stuff. But I’ve found that when I’m skiing, I’m not as hungry as I would if maybe I had nervous hunger like I have if I was at a business meeting or a lunch back East.

Now, I am not knocking the East. That’s where I live. But it’s really strange. You would think that skiing all morning you would be starved and want to eat this tremendous lunch and pig out. It’s actually kind of the opposite. I don’t feel all that hungry. I don’t generally eat a lot while I am skiing. But then we take a lunch break and I typically pack a sandwich, some green tea, some nuts, and I will be very honest with you occasionally we’ll pack a few little chips. They are not healthy at all by any stretch of the imagination. Am I perfect?  I try to eliminate all the processed foods that I can. That’s another one of my secrets.

Moving your body is not a secret but it’s something that works. If you want to lose weight, you pretty much have to do it on a regular basis.

Eating is another thing. As you know, I eat plant based. I don’t eat anything from an animal. When you eat plant based vegan and you cut out the processed foods and the sugars. No cookies, no desserts, no sweetened drinks at all. The only thing that I drink out here is basically water and unsweetened tea. No artificial sweeteners, no sugar, no nothing. Occasionally, if Yoko and I are out at one of our favorite restaurants we will split a sake. But very very little. I drink almost no alcohol. If you like alcohol, I’m not down on it; I’m just telling you it’s packed with calories. And when you eliminate alcohol, you’re gonna lose weight. When you eliminate wheat products and processed things like that, you’re gonna lose weight.

So those are the two main things that I find that when I am here help me with weight control. Eating a vegan diet, which I do anywhere, and moving my body.

What we do here, I do every day. I do some yoga poses I don’t do a full hour of yoga. I can’t say I don’t have the time for it. I just don’t do it. I do meditation practically every single day. And not noshing on junk. That’s pretty much my secret.

So maybe there’s something to this. If you want to lose weight, maybe there’s something to putting yourself in a different environment for a short period of time and really ramping it up. Moving your body more, taking time to yourself, eating better, and being stricter on your diet.

I am very strict. Even when I’m back East, I’m really strict. But I find that sometimes I do indulge in foods that are processed and not whole foods. I try my best to eat a whole food plant based diet. I never deviate on the animal part of it. I do not want to eat any animal products for so many reasons. I just don’t eat any animal products. So I never ever make an exception there. I never just take a bite of cheese. I just won’t do it. I look at labels and if something has animal products, I just don’t buy it. I am pretty much 100% vegan. Or as close to 100% as possible.

I know that when you eat in a restaurant you are pretty much at the mercy of the restaurant and you never know 100%. But most people as soon as you tell them what you don’t want to have in your food, they are very good about understanding. And I am finding, especially here in Breck too, that people are in tune to vegan eating. When were in an Indian restaurant last night and the waitress there totally understood when I said it. When you go to Indian restaurants and get the bread you think it’s so innocuous but let me tell you there is milk product in nan bread. If you want to get a bread in an Indian restaurant that has no dairy, you’ll want to get roti. Roti is a whole wheat bread that’s made without dairy. But be very careful. There’s hidden animal products in many many things that you would not expect.

So, it’s February. New Year’s resolutions for many of you have kind of gone down the tubes. And sometimes you get frustrated and you struggle especially with weight. So I am here to be your coach. I’m going to help you. I’m going to be your cheerleader. I know you can do this. The best advice I can give you is to try your best to make very few exceptions. The people that say anything in moderation is ok, to me that’s bullshit. I do not think that anything in moderation is ok. I think that’s an excuse for eating junk. Because would you say that heroin or cocaine in moderation is ok? You wouldn’t even think about that I hope. You wouldn’t even consider that in moderation. So why would you consider something that’s really bad for you like a coca-cola ok? I would not. So let’s tighten our belts so to speak (no pun intended) and really watch what we eat and be stricter and move our body.

Last spring, I got a Fitbit Blaze and it tracks my steps every day and tells me how much I sleep at night. I love it! It’s been an invaluable tool to help me keep my body in the best shape possible. I am going to be 62 in May and yeah I’m here skiing with my son who’s 31 and my wife who’s 46. I’m skiing with these youngsters and I’m keeping up…kind of. I’m skiing the blacks, the double blacks, the tough stuff. And do I ever get sore? Of course I do. Right now I could use an incredible massage on my left shoulder. It’s just sore. They are out actually on the slopes right now and I am kind of taking the morning off relaxing and recording this for you. And going to the grocery store getting some really healthy food. That’s exactly what I’m doing.

I’m probably going to be doing another live-stream Facebook video. I try to do those once or twice a month now. I try not to overdo it. I’m getting ready to do one a few days after Superbowl.

A lot of good stuff coming up. I’m excited about life. Do we all have struggles? Absolutely! Is life tough sometimes? It is! It really is! I’ll share some things with you in the very near future about some of the struggles I’ve been going through. And I’m just trying to sort things out. And figure out my life like I always go. I’m very goal oriented. I still carry around my goals in my notebook everywhere I go.

But sometimes things get difficult. And it doesn’t help that everyone is so divided now about the politics that are going on in the U.S. and really with things going on all over the world.  But I’ve never seen a nation so divided. I’ve never seen so many Facebook friends feel so divided. And I want to end with this. If someone is a different religion than you are, a different skin color, a different sexual orientation. I would hope that you respect and love because everyone is different. Don’t judge people on the religion, their skin color, their sexual orientation, whatever they may be. So I really hope you take it a step further and please don’t judge people on what they believe politically because we’re all different. Everybody has their own personal views. And we should all love each other and respect that is what makes the nation (and the world) go around. I see some of these hateful posts on Facebook and it really does upset me just because again I’ve never seen us so divided. So please love your fellow person. And don’t start to hate people based on their political views or their religious views. That’s really bad in my opinion. Let’s try to love.

I’m going to end this show today with love. Because you know something? I love you! You know something else? I will see you next week! I’m Dr. Dave…

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Hey there! It’s Dr. Dave and welcome back to The David Madow Lifestyle Show. It’s the show where I help you live stronger, longer, thinner, healthier, and happier!

If I sound like I’m a little out of breath, I’m really not. This is our first episode this season from Breckenridge, Colorado. Beautiful Breckenridge! Where there are mountains and snow and skiers and snowboarders and people and outdoors activities and fun. For the town itself, the elevation is 9600 feet. So even in the town just sleeping, you’re at almost 2 miles of elevation. And then once you get up on the mountain to ski, all bets are off. They have a chair lift here that brings you to just a tad under 13,000 feet in elevation. So do the math on that. The oxygen is very thin. The air is very thin here.

So I am walking outside. You might be able to hear the snow crunching under my feet. I love it here. I am here with my wife, Yoko. We come every season. We come in the winter and we come in the summer. We would like to live here and we will eventually.

What we love about it is that we don’t have to drive anywhere. Once we’re here, we pretty much walk wherever we want to go. What happens is you start to feel better. It’s almost like a forced exercise. A forced healthy lifestyle. We ski during the day. I do work and my writing. I have my laptop here and get on conference calls. I do all these things. But a lot of times during the day we are out skiing on the mountain or walking through town.

So anyway, we’re here for a while and I’ll probably be doing the next few episodes from beautiful Breckenridge, Colorado. If you’re in the area, send me an email or a message and come through and visit. I would love to have you and hang out with you. I would love to get a cup of coffee or tea with you so let me know if you’re around.

The first thing I want to share with you is actually pretty interesting. The first day I went out on the mountain. It had not snowed for a while so there was not a whole bunch of powder. So you are kinda skiing on “groomed” packed snow if that makes any sense to you. As I was skiing down the mountain, I remembered that in that kind of snow my skis didn’t really perform that well. I was kind of slipping and sliding all over the place, whereas other people seemed to be doing fine. I just felt like I was sliding too much. My skis do really well through powder and at the top of the mountain and things like that. But for a normal type of skiing, I just felt that they could do better.

So I went to a local ski shop here and I demoed a pair of skis. I wanted skis that would allow me to pretty much ski all over the mountain. So I started doing a lot of reading. It said that I should try much shorter skis. Much shorter than most of the people in the stores would recommend.

So I went into a ski shop and the first lady said, “oh no you shouldn’t do that. That’s not going to be good.” And I pretty much thought to myself that my gut was telling me that I wanted some shorter skis.

So I went into another place and I worked with a guy for about 45 minutes and he showed me skis. He was a really nice guy named Matt. And he totally got it! He totally understood that you can do pretty well on short skis. Let’s give it a shot!

So I took these out on the mountain the next day. And let me tell you something. It was like night and day between what I had been skiing on and these new skis that I was demoing. It was like night and day. I felt like I could ski on anything. In the past I was slipping and sliding, but now I felt so comfortable. It was like starting a new skiing career over. I am thinking to myself these things are awesome. I demoed them for another day and I ended up buying them.

Yes, I know I am a minimalist. I don’t get a lot of stuff. This is just one thing. I ski so much and just wanted to have the right equipment. And I wanted to have something that was right for me.

So I started thinking. What else is in our lives that we kind of are putting up with but might not be the best for us? We know in our heart that it’s not right, but we’re too reluctant to change. It could be anything. Think along with me. What could it be? Maybe you’ve been sleeping on a mattress and the mattress is old and is causing lower back pain. And it’s not helping your back. It’s not helping your sleep and you’re getting a horrible night’s sleep. Maybe if you did a little research and bought a new mattress, you will say “I cannot believe I have been sleeping on that other mattress for 5 years!” Because that’s basically what I had been saying about these skis. Because the newer ones are so much better.

Think about anything you might have that for some reason you feel is not working out for you very well and if you only changed it there would be a big difference in the way that product or item works. Maybe it could change your life depending on what it is. Just think about it.

For 3 years I thought that slipping and sliding was the way it was supposed to be but I knew it was not. Because as I saw everybody else around me they didn’t seem to be slipping and sliding like I was.

So I bought these skis. But I want to share something with you about when I bought these skis. I recently went to a seminar. There was a guy on the stage and he was explaining to the audience how to really connect with people. And how to pretty much get something that you want. Not by taking advantage of anyone of doing any harm but how to have an advantage if you’re in a business negotiation or something like that. What he explained was something called C.I.A. “C” stands for compliment, the “I” stands for introduce, and the “A” stands for ask. So this guy said that whenever you are in a situation such as a business situation or you’re meeting someone new or people you don’t know and you don’t know how to really start a conversation, the first thing you do is to go up to a person or a group of people and throw a compliment out there.

So for example, you are at the ski lodge and you’re by yourself. You don’t know anyone around but maybe you want to meet some people. You see a group of people sitting there having lunch. So you look at them and the first thing you say to them is “Hey, you guys look like a fun group here.” Now that sounds a little forced. But imagine going up to a group of people and saying “Hey it looks like you guys are having fun.” Nobody would ever question that. People love to hear that said about themselves or a group.

The next thing you do is to introduce yourself. And then quickly ask a question. “Hey do you guys know where’s the best place on the mountain to ski some powder?” And all of a sudden you are accepted into this group and 30 seconds ago you didn’t even know them. Remember C.I.A.

So say you are a single guy looking for a single woman and you walk into a bar. You could do the same thing. It’s a good way to meet people and it doesn’t look like it’s forced or look phony. Nobody minds being complimented.

The reason I am bringing this up is that I wanted to share an example with you. I used this technique when I bought my pair of skis. You see I just saw this guy on stage a little while ago and I’m also reading one of his books. And I said I’m gonna try this out. What I wanted to do was to see if I could get the best possible deal on the skis. Again nothing unethical or illegal but I wanted to get the best possible deal.

So when I went into the store after I demoed the skis there was another guy, not the guy I dealt with already. So I thought I am going to try it out on this guy. He asked if he could help me and I said “No, I’m waiting for Matt. Matt’s been helping me.” So after a little while and a little small talk, I figured I was going to try it. So I said “It looks like you love working here. This looks like so much fun! Am I right?” And he looked at me and said, “Yeah I’m having too much fun! This is great, right?!”  And then I took my hand out and shook his hand and said, “Hi, my name is Dave.”

I was going to take it to the next level and ask him for help with my skis to really swing a deal but this guy didn’t look like the right kind of guy to be honest. To be honest with you the guy looked stoned. He looked a little out of it and I didn’t want to start up a financial conversation about my skis. It’s legal to buy weed and smoke weed in Colorado so this guy wasn’t doing anything illegal. But it’s probably not the coolest thing to be stoned at work. I don’t think the boss would have liked that too much. I just didn’t think this was the guy. But I was all ready to try that – C.I.A. Compliment, introduce, and ask a question. My question would have been “I’m interested in the skis. I am a regular here and refer lots of customers. What’s the best price you can get me?” But I didn’t ask the stoned guy.

Here’s what I did. When my guy Matt was ready (he was working with another customer), we started talking. He already knew me so I didn’t have to introduce. I think I did throw him a compliment. I thanked him very much and told him that he had been so helpful and that I appreciated him taking the time to work with me. And then I went right into my little spiel. I said, “Hey, let’s price this out. I want to let you know that I am a local who is here all winter and I have referred a lot of people and bought a lot of stuff here. So what’s the best price you can do?” He looked at me and thought for a second and said “Hmmm, don’t tell anybody this because I really shouldn’t be doing this but I am going to give you 20% off.” I look at him and said “20% off of everything? The skis, the bindings, everything?” And he said “Yeah, I’ll give you 20% off everything.” So I look at him and said “I think that’s really fair. Thank you very much!”

So there are a few lessons here. C.I.A. You can meet somebody new, you can negotiate. In business transactions I am very fair, but I also think it’s fair to ask for the best price. Don’t necessarily pay retail. I’ve found that at almost every place that you buy something you can make a deal with them. People think that you can only deal with car dealers and no one else negotiates. You can negotiate almost everywhere. You don’t have to be obnoxious. You don’t have to be a jerk about it. You can just say something kind of like I said in the ski shop. Nothing I said was untrue. I don’t want you to think you should lie or deceive somebody when trying to strike a deal. But there’s nothing wrong with letting somebody know how many people you’ve referred. And that you kind of expect a little deal in return. There’s nothing wrong with that. You’d be surprised how many people come back and say “we just had a sale two weeks ago, let me give you that price.”

Here’s another example. Yoko and I went into a running store called Vertical Runner which, by the way, is North America’s highest running store at an elevation of 9600 feet. Yoko was going to buy 2 pairs of running shoes. So we went in there and Yoko was trying on some trail shoes. And the trail shoes were on sale at a great price. And when something is on sale for a great price, you don’t have to necessarily have to try to get it lower and lower. But the running shoes were fairly expensive. and I even said “Wow that’s a lot of money.” And so immediately the woman who worked there, her name was Molly, she said “let me tell you something, we just had women’s night and I think we gave everyone 20% off so I am going to give you 20% off.” That was just by asking. There’s nothing wrong with it. Don’t be afraid. Don’t be ashamed. The best business people negotiate and get the absolute best prices.

So I think that’s kind of it. I am excited to be here. I am excited to take some of the pounds off that I gained on the East coast because my leg is hurting a little bit. No it’s not the same leg, it’s a different leg. I was playing catch with my son in law about a month ago and took a fall. My leg has been hurting since so I am trying to nurse that a little bit. So when I was back in Maryland, I wasn’t able to do my running and walking as much as I should have and I put on a few pounds. I am not proud of that at all.

But here I am eating healthier. I always eat vegan. I never make exceptions. But there was some processed junk I started throwing in the mix back in Maryland. I shouldn’t have but I did. But here, I’m healthier, I’m moving my body a lot more, skiing on the mountain, walking pretty much every day. On the second full day here, I already noticed. I got on the scale and I’ve already noticed the pounds coming off. Because it is a healthy lifestyle here! You can live a healthy lifestyle wherever you are. Sometimes when you get an injury, it’s tough. My spirits are high. My attitude is great! And I’m going to do the best I can. You know why? Because I’m Dr. Dave and I’ll see you next week!

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“Thank you very much for listening! The show is literally downloaded by the thousands each week now. In fact, we have passed the 350,000+ downloads mark! Wow! I so appreciate you listening and sharing this show with your family and friends. I love to help people live a healthier life! It is so great that we have listeners from all over the world from the United States to the UK to Canada to Europe to Japan to Australia. I love hearing from people all over the world on Facebook, Twitter, Email, and our phone hotline too!” – Dr. Dave.

Did you enjoy today’s show? Do you have any questions for me? Do you have any comments or feedback? You are not alone! We want to help you live better, stronger, happier, thinner lives!

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Hello there! It’s Dr. D the “V”, David Madow. Welcome back to another episode of The David Madow Lifestyle Show. I’m so happy to be back with you for another incredible episode. Today we are going to be doing a show called “My Three Questions.” On Facebook I said that the first three people to ask me questions, whatever they are, I will answer them. And I did that a few weeks ago and it turned out great! I got a bunch of messages from people saying that they really liked the episode and that it was really cool.

So about a week ago, I did another one. And I think you’re really going to enjoy it. I’ve got three really really good ones.

First thing I want to do before we get into them is that I want to welcome new listeners, old listeners, whoever you may be. I really appreciate you! I think over the past few episodes I have neglected to say it to you. If you need me for anything, you can always reach me. My email address is simply dave@davidmadow.com. I always say that if you know my name, which I think you do now, you can find me online anywhere – Facebook, Twitter, Periscope, Instagram, wherever I may be hanging. So I really appreciate you and let’s get right into this episode.

My Three Questions

Question: How do you maintain a positive attitude when everything around you is falling apart? Terri – Maryland

Answer: Terri, first I want to start off my answer by saying, Terri I am so sorry you feel that everything is falling apart. But I am going to disagree with you. Everything is not falling apart. You know how I know that Terri? Because you were able to type this on a computer and transmit is all over the internet. I know you’ve got a computer, you have internet which you are most likely paying for, you likely have a home that is heated, and you’re putting food on the table I’m guessing.

Here’s the thing, a lot of times we feel like we are falling apart and I have felt like this too so I can speak from experience. We go through a bad phase of life; whether it’s a divorce or whether it’s the loss of a job or a health problem, or anything like that. And your mind makes it feel like everything is falling apart. But then you take a stop back and it’s really not. Terri you’re living, you’re breathing, you’re eating, you’re sleeping, you’re doing all the things that human beings do and I just don’t think that we should be in the mindset that everything is falling apart. Do you have struggles? Do you have challenges? Ok, sure! Terri, I do too and probably every single person listening to this episode today has some type of struggles. Some are worse than others. Some are bad and some are not so bad. And maybe you’re going through a really tough time now. If you are Terri, I’m really sorry, I feel bad. But let’s see if we can straighten you out today.

So let’s say that you lost a job (I’m just making this up right now, for all I now that’s not your problem). And it seems that you have little money coming in if any and you have bills to pay. And you’re struggling with that and it’s hard to find a new job because things are tough out there. Let’s just say that’s the case. Maybe it’s getting you down and you feel depressed. I’ve talked about this in the past and on fairly recent episodes. We ALL tend to feel down sometimes. We all tend to feel sad or depressed. Especially this time of year when the days are short and it’s cold out. It’s gloomy and the sun is not as bright as it usually is in the spring and summer. I gave some tips on this in Episode #167 and I hope you go back and listen to them. I wouldn’t give these tips if I didn’t think they work. I know they work.

Not that long ago I was going through a little bit of a tough time myself. I was kind of sad at some points. And I realized, what am I doing differently? For some reason, I got out of the habit of meditating every day like I’ve been doing for a couple years now. Somehow it just slipped away and I got into other things. As soon as I got back and started meditating, almost immediately, I started feeling better. I started to feel more upbeat. And not only that when I meditate I have all kinds of ideas that come into my mind. First of all there’s not way it can hurt you. I’ve never heard of anybody that’s been hurt while meditating. So Terri, I recommend every day or even a couple time a day, sitting down in a comfortable position and putting on relaxing music for 15 minutes at a time. Just concentrate on your breathing – in, out, in, out. You’ll be surprised that when you start doing this every day you’ll feel more at peace with yourself and you’ll start getting ideas. Things are going to come to your mind that are maybe going to help your situation that you’re in right now.

Another thing I would do is to move your body as much as you possibly can right now. I don’t know how you can move your body or what kind of situation you are in but anything you can do to move your body somewhat is better than nothing.

And if you haven’t done this yet, I would cut out animal products from your diet. I know I have said this before and some people don’t believe me but I swear to you that this is true. When you’re consuming animals, you are consuming suffering and sadness. And you’re eating those cells and they are being incorporated into your bodily cells. Again, you are not going to lose anything by trying this. I’ve been through this, I’ve done this, it works!!

So try these things Terri and if you need me for anything feel free to write back and I can help you some more. But I feel that you’re going to turn around. Just remember your whole world is not falling apart. Yeah you’re going through a struggle now. We all have done that. We all have felt that before. And some of us are going through it right now. But I promise you Terri, your world is not falling apart. You have people that love you. You know that. Am I right about that? Plenty of people on this planet love you! So hold your head high and keep your chin up in the air. You’re going to be ok, Terri. I promise!

Question: You mentioned in a Facebook comment not too long ago that you had to beg, borrow, and steal to start your dental practice. What did you steal? Steve – Oklahoma

Answer: [Dave laughs] That is a great question Steve! Um, what did I steal? Well, actually it’s an expression. I did beg a lot and I borrowed a LOT but I don’t think I stole anything. As a matter of fact, I am pretty sure I didn’t steal anything because I believe in living my life the right way and part of that is thou shall not steal. And I really don’t steal. I try to be as ethical as possible. I would never even get into a business venture with anybody I felt wasn’t doing them any good. I would never do something for money if I thought the other person wasn’t getting a really good product or a deal or something. First of all, when you do that, it’s basically stealing from somebody. Somebody’s hard earned money that they are paying you and they trust you to do something for them and you’re taking their money and they are not getting what they thought they would be getting.

So Steve that was a great question! I don’t steal but I want to tell you an interesting story. This goes back to my youth, probably about age 18. I had a car and this car was an AMC Hornet. I loved this thing! It was kind of a cheap piece of junk but I loved it! It was mine and I took good care of it. Not only that I learned how to tune it up and change the oil. Because back then these cars were not run by computers. Anybody could lift the hood up and could basically change their own oil and set the timing. I actually loved tinkering with this thing.

One day I needed some type of part for under the hood. So I went to the local Ames which was kind of like an early version of Target and Kmart. They had like everything there. So I am roaming around the store and I found the part that I needed. It was a tiny little part probably less than $5. I remember I picked this thing up off the shelf and I kinda looked around. And I thought to myself, I’m just going to steal this thing. I don’t want to buy it, I am just going to steal it. I don’t know why I thought that. It wasn’t the money. I had the $5 on me. But I think it was more that I was a young kid and it was a thrill since I had never done it before. I probably just wanted to see if I could get away with it. I don’t know. I don’t understand why I did that. So I looked around the store. And when I was in an aisle that didn’t look like anybody I put the thing in my pocket. And I walked around a little bit more. When it looked like no one was following me, I left the store. And I stole this little part. Again, I don’t know why I did it. But I didn’t feel good about it.

But here’s the thing. It’s the only thing I have ever stolen in my life to my recollection. I don’t think I have ever done that since. I don’t think I have ever ripped anybody off. To this day, about 40 years later, I still remember this and it’s never gonna leave me. It will be with me until the day I die. I won’t forget it. I can’t forget it. And I don’t feel good. Imagine if I did something worse than that. Imagine if I had committed some serious crime or injured or killed somebody.

And I realized maybe it was a lesson. Maybe God, or whomever you believe, was trying to tell me thou shall not steal because if you do it’s going to haunt you for the rest of your life. I can’t say it’s something I think about every single day but Steve when you wrote that question I started thinking about stealing and I did. I remember and I will never do that again. I didn’t get caught. I didn’t get in trouble. But I ripped somebody off. I did something illegal and stole from somebody. That person did not deserve to be stolen from. And here I am remembering it for the rest of my life.

Steve, great question! But yeah opening up my dental practice was kind of a tough time in my life. I did have to borrow from a lot of people and beg a lot of people. We got through it though it though. And things are ok now. Thanks for the question Steve.

Question: How do you decide to go to either go to the ends of the earth again to forgive and forget and move on from a close family member who has been very toxic in your life or that it’s best to let them fade into the sunset and end the relationship permanently? This is heavy on my heart with this being Christmas. Lori – Pennsylvania

Answer: Sorry about the timing but she wrote this around Christmas time and so it’s been a couple weeks. Lori, I am sorry that you’ve got this person that’s been weighing on you. It’s obviously causing a lot of concern, and grief, and bad feelings and you’re wondering what to do. I am not sure what this person did and I am not sure how close or not close you are with this person. But what I’ve been preaching for quite some time on my show, or on Facebook, or wherever I may be talking about this. If somebody crosses you the wrong way, if they do something wrong to you, or they’re not nice to you; then holding a grudge is not a good option.

The reason it’s not a good option is because think about what it’s doing. It’s only hurting the person that’s holding the grudge. It’s only hurting the person that’s hating. It’s only hurting the person that’s holding it into their body because the other person couldn’t care less. They might be a jerk and they don’t really care. They’re going around doing their jerky stuff and they really don’t care. So when you hold a grudge or hold hatred it’s only hurting you. It’s not hurting the other person. So people say “yeah but I can’t let this go. That person did so many bad things to me that I can’t let it go. Well, what are your options? Your options are either hold it in and have it become toxic inside of your body or let it go! Those are the options. And when those two options are available to me guess what I do. I let it go! Now that does not mean that this person has to be your best friend. It does not mean you have to hang out with this person. It does not mean that you have to invite this person over to your house.

I’ve done episode of letting go of the mf’s. You know what that stands for. Let them go! Let them go. Don’t hold any hatred or anger or bad feelings towards them but let go of all the mf’s.

So in your case Lori it sounds like to me there was someone in your family that you were contemplating getting together during Christmas or during holidays and you don’t have a good feeling when you’re with them. They’ve done some bad things or said some bad things to you. And you’re trying to figure out whether you should totally get then out of your life once and for all or have them in your life. Look, there are people in my family that I don’t feel like I am vibrating with on the same level or on the same frequency as they are. I am not saying they are bad people but when I see them I don’t have a warm fuzzy feeling. I’m cordial. I’m nice but I don’t go out of my way to make plans. And I don’t invite them over to my house. And I think that’s they way you should do it. If you’re invited to a party and that person or those people are going to be there, then it’s up to you whether you go or not. And if you go, you can be cordial. They don’t have to be your best friend. But I think as far as holding in anger or hatred, that’s where we have to let go.

So I hope that helped you Lori. The bottom line is to get rid of any anger and get rid of any hatred. Forgive! Forgive what they did to you. But they don’t have to be your best friend and you don’t have to have them over to your house. And you do not have to participate in parties or functions or whatever. If they work with you, then you’ll have to figure that out. Either get rid of them or you leave. But it didn’t sound like a work situation to me. But again my rules apply to whoever they are. If it’s your spouse, that’s a serious problem. You have to work that out or leave. And hopefully working it out is better. Even if it’s a parent. If they’re toxic, you gotta love them, but just don’t go out of your way to get together with them. I hate to say it like that but if it’s going to ruin your day every time you see them, that’s not a good thing either. I hope that helped.

Let’s do another episode like this really soon. How it works is that you can’t write in. I will put in on Facebook and say hey the first three questions, I’ll answer on my next episode. And that’s what I’ll do. I like it! And I like you!

I’ve gotta go now. So until next week. You know who I am, it’s Dr. Dave. Thank you for being a part of this show. See you next time!

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Welcome to The David Madow Lifestyle Show! I’m Dr. D the “V”. And this is actually the last episode of 2016. It’s amazing how quickly the time goes. Again, I’ve been podcasting for close to 3 1/2 years now and it’s like you blink your eyes and the time is gone. It’s unbelievable!

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It’s the show where I help you live stronger, thinner, healthier, and happier! And I am so glad to be here on the last show of the year. And if you’re brand new to me, I welcome you. We’ve got a lot of great things ahead in 2017 and beyond. If you’ve been with me from the beginning, or somewhere in between, thanks so much. I really appreciate you. I hope I have inspired you in some way, even if it’s in some little way, to live your life purposely and much better than you have before.

I’m going to recap and share with you some really cool things that I’ve learned and I do and I continue to do. Things I have learned in 2016 and will continue to do in 2017 and hopefully beyond. When I look back at the year, one of the coolest things I started doing these Hippie Road trips (kind of on a whim and not planned out). I actually did 3 of them in 2016. The way I started doing these was that I actually travel all over North America to speak and in the past I would always fly everywhere I went. And it was pretty cool to do that but airports get old. They’re crowded, they’re horrible. I just don’t like them anymore. They’re kind of a necessary evil. If I’m traveling from the East coast to let’s say Denver, San Francisco or Florida, you pretty much have to jump on a plane. It’s not really simple to get in a car and drive to that type of city from the East coast.

But I had a speaking gig sometime in the spring in Phoenix, Arizona. And 5 or 6 days later I had a speaking gig in Little Rock, Arkansas. I had this crazy idea that I was going to spend the days in between these speaking gigs instead of getting on a plane, I was going to drive from Phoenix, AZ to Little Rock, AK. And I did. And it was one of the coolest things I have ever done in my life. I was alone and the first day I remember that I drove to the Grand Canyon and did a nice day hike in the Grand Canyon. It was wild. I slept in Flagstaff, AZ that evening. The next day I drove to New Mexico and spent some time there. Then after New Mexico, I went to Texas. Through Oklahoma City and ultimately into Little Rock. I don’t know if I skipped any places or not but it was a blast.

What can you learn from a road trip?  I learned a lot! First of all, I learned that most people are really good people and in the past I always that that truckers were a group of people that were racing to get from one location to another and were inconsiderate. But I learned learned a lot about truckers on this trip and let me tell you something, truckers are some pretty cool people. They are working hard making a living out there. They’ve got to get from one location to the next but from what I saw they do it with a with a really good sincere, considerate attitude.

I learned a lot. I stopped at truck stops and at different types of restaurants and I learned that wherever you go almost any restaurant will cater to someone who eats plant based vegan. I stopped at some good Mexican places. It’s easy to find. It’s easy to also shop when you’re on the road and keep stuff in the back of your car and eat on the road. I ate healthy food the whole way. I stopped when I could.

I was in Oklahoma somewhere and got a speeding ticket. I paid it. It’s ok. The policeman was out there doing his job. He was extremely polite. I was speeding. I was breaking the law and I paid the ticket with gratitude actually. I did.

I learned something else on the trip. I had a lot of time to think. That was back in the time that I was doing a lot of Periscope broadcasting while I was driving. Which I’ve learned is really not a good idea because when I’m driving I’ve got to be paying attention to the road. I don’t want to jeopardize my life or anyone’s life on the road. So I actually stopped doing that live stream video and you can understand why. It’s just not a good idea.

I also learned another thing on the Hippie Road Trip. I published this and I talked about it in a previous podcast episode. I learned to kind of get the “mother fuckers” out my life. And as horrible as that sounds, I don’t mean that in a bad way. I don’t mean it in a negative way towards anyone. I just mean that life is short. And there’s only so much time we have so why spend it with people that you don’t feel that you are vibrating on the same frequency with. That doesn’t mean that they are bad people. You know exactly what I’m talking about. There are people like that in your life, I guarantee it. You don’t have anything against them but you but you don’t feel the love, feel the vibration, you don’t feel the connection. Why waste your time with these people when there are probably plenty of people in your life that you feel a serious connection with. Stick with those people!

I’m not saying you shouldn’t meet new people along the way, you should. But let’s face it! You don’t have a whole lot of time when you really look at it and there’s only so many people you can spend your time with and I choose to spend my time with the people that I am connected with. The people that I feel love for. The special people in my life. That’s who I choose to hang with. And when I learned to get the “mf’s” out of my life, it freed up a tremendous amount of time. I don’t spend time with them in real life anymore. I don’t spend time with them on social media. It just frees up a lot of time. Even if it means sitting down and reading a book. Writing something or working on some goals.

I took 2 subsequent hippie road trips after that. They actually led me up to the Northern part of the U.S. and into Canada. I had 2 speaking gigs. One of them was in Toronto, Ontario and the other was in London, Ontario. When you actually get in your car and drive you get to see what’s going on around you. You can look at the rivers and the mountains. It opened up a whole new world for me. It really did! I guess I am going to say to you is that if you have the chance to do something like a hippie road trip, I would get in the car and try it.

Some of you have asked me if I have any hippie road trips planned for 2017 and I think I do. It’s not definite. I am speaking in Memphis, Tennessee in the beginning of March. It’s a good 9-10 drive from where I live in Maryland so what I think I am going to do is take 2 or 3 days to drive to Memphis. So I will take my time on the way. I might head into Asheville, North Carolina since I’ve never been there. People have told me that it’s a great place especially if you’re vegan. Then after I finish speaking I would just jump on a plane and come back. It’ll be a hippie road trip but kind of like half a hippie road trip.

So that’s what I have planned. I have some other speaking gigs during the year and we’ll see if we can make them into hippie road trips. I have one right afterwards in South Florida but don’t think I want to drive that far. It’s too far for me to drive there then turn around and come back. South Florida is pretty far from where I live so I may not do that one. But we’ll see. We’re looking at the calendar and some maps and we’ll have more hippie road trips in 2017 for sure.

Something I look forward to at the end of this year, and I’ll probably be doing it right around the time you’ll be hearing this, is my wife Yoko and I for the past many years have had a little ritual. I am really going to recommend you do this whether you have a spouse or not, it doesn’t really matter. This is something cool to do around the new year. We do it typically around New Year’s Eve. We work on our goals for the following year. We sit down and write what we want to accomplish for the next year (and really beyond). And the interesting thing is we always go over the goals that we had for the previous year. So in other words, sometime around New Year’s Eve this year we will sit down and work on not only our 2017 goals but we will look to see how we did in 2016. Interestingly enough I just found my book of goals that we had and started back in around 2010. I’ve had goals for myself for the past 25 years by myself but we started having joint goals for both of us. Out of curiosity I pulled out the book that we started in 2010 and began looking at all the goals we wrote down that year. It’s really pretty cool but just about everything that we wrote has become reality. A lot of them were financial goals like becoming debt free and paying off our house. And a lot of the others were travel goals and physical fitness goals such as doing certain races and certain backpack trips. The interesting thing is that just about all of them came true and not only that did not become reality were just things that we put down that we didn’t push for. For example, we listed a lot of places that we wanted to travel to over the next couple years or so like Vietnam and Thailand and we just didn’t get there. But truth be told we didn’t push for those because as you know I do a lot of traveling for work and outside of work and we did some trips to Japan since Yoko is from there, we did a couple trips to Hawaii and did some marathons there. So we did what we wanted to do but we didn’t get everything done. It just would have been a physical and financial impossibility. But it was really pretty cool reading through these goals starting from 2010 because I look back to see where we were then and how far we’ve come and how far we’ve progressed and what we’ve accomplished. And it was really great because we accomplished so many things because we wrote them down and read them on a regular basis.

Now, I’ve got my own list of goals. I started out doing goals about 20 to 25 years ago and I have my own list of goals for me personally that I keep with me wherever I am. They are either in my back pocket or my backpack in small little notebook and I read those every day. The goals that Yoko and I write up around New Year’s Eve we write them down and read them periodically but not every single day. They sit on a bookshelf in a main room sort of in our office. Our house is kind of like one big room on the first floor. The one big room is made of a kitchen, living area, and office. It’s kind of an open floor plan. So I keep the list of goals right there where we can see it anytime and either one of us can pull it off the bookshelf and read it. Periodically throughout the year we will review them and check them off as they become reality. They just about always do unless we just don’t push hard enough.

So I am going to highly recommend that if you haven’t started yet and there’s something you want to do, that you write it down. It could be anything. It could be weight loss. It could be a particular person you want to meet or someplace you want to travel to. New Year’s Eve or right around the beginning of the year is a great time to know that every single year at that time you are going to not only review your goals from the previous year but come up with new ones. It works so well for me and Yoko that I am going to highly recommend it.

What else have I gotten out of 2016? [Dave laughs] Well, I had a bad injury. You remember that one? I took a bad fall in Japan while skiing. It took a good part of the year to heal up. Sometimes I still feel it although it’s been almost a year now. So I learned that I am 61 years old now and I don’t heal as fast as when I was 11 years old. I need to be careful. I can’t take as many crazy chances as I used to. So I keep that in mind. That doesn’t mean that I don’t do things when we go skiing. Surely, we go to Breckenridge, Colorado every winter. We’ll be there in January and February. I am going to ski some hard stuff but I still have to be a little bit more careful than I was when I was much younger. If I take a fall and it’s a bad fall, it could hurt for a long time. And quite honestly I don’t want that. I had a tough time sleeping and getting around. Even on hippie road trip #1 and that was in the spring. I remember it was hurting! It was tough. So one of my goals is to be a little more careful in 2017. Just be careful. You can still have fun but don’t take crazy chances. And I don’t think I took a crazy chance when I fell in Japan. It was the first day though and I was on rental skis and we were skiing through some deep powder that I wasn’t really familiar with. We were skiing in and out of some trees a little bit and I just took a fall. I heard a snap and them felt the wham! I was like crying. So one of my goals is – don’t take chances like that. Just be careful.

So what are some of your goals? What are you going to do in 2017 to make it your best year ever? Have you thought about it? Think about it. We have the potential. We have a new president and whether you voted for him or not things are going to be changing. And hopefully it’s for the better. I really really hope our country and our world is going to change for the better. I have no idea. But I am going into this with a positive attitude. There have been so many people that are pissed off and angry and screaming but I am going into this with a positive attitude.

I am going to make 2017 the best year of my life so far. I am going to spend more time with my parents who are getting older. They are both in their 80s and I don’t know how much longer they’re going to be around. I want to spend some time with them. I want to spend some time with the people I am close with. I want to spend more time with Yoko. I want to spend more time with my 3 cats at home. I just want to be with people that I love. I want to spend more time with the people that mean so much to me. I want to get down to Florida more and spend time with my 2 grandsons and my daughter and my son in law. And get over to the West coast and see my son and daughter in law there. These are the most important things in life. And when we’re old and at the end of our lives, I don’t think anybody who’s on their deathbed has ever said “I wish I would have worked at the office a little bit more.” I don’t think anybody has ever said that. But one of the most common regrets is that somebody approaches the end of their life and they did not spend enough time with the people that were most important to them. I just don’t want to have that kind of regret. We’ll leave it at that.

I want to suggest one more thing to you and then I’ll wish you a very very Happy New Year because this will be the last time I will be talking to you in 2017. If you have not gone vegan yet, if you have not eliminated animals from your diet, and from your life, maybe 2017 is the year. It’s the best thing I have ever done in my life. I feel healthier, more vibrant, younger, I feel like I’ve got more passion. I am doing the right thing because I am not contributing to any animal suffering on my watch. And did I tell you that I’m healthier? I am! At least I think so. I am pretty sure 😉

Listen, I want to wish you not only a Merry Christmas (which has already passed) but a Happy New Year! If you’re Jewish, Happy Hanukkah! If you’re any other religion, whatever you celebrate or not celebrate. Whatever you are and whatever you’re not, it doesn’t matter. I love you! I want to wish you the best year ever in 2017. I’m Dr. Dave and I love ya!

See you next year!

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Hey there it’s Dr. Dave and welcome back to The David Madow Lifestyle Show. This is the show where I help you live stronger, thinner, healthier, and happier. And a lot more than that.

I am in my outdoor studio and about 5 minutes ago I put a post up in one of my Facebook groups, The Supercharge Hangout (click the link to join). It’s a really cool group of about a few hundred people who are like minded and we just help each other live our best lives ever!

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So the message I wrote in this group was, “I’m recording a show in 5 minutes, I will take the first 3 questions whatever they are. I’m not going to edit anything out, I’m not going skip anything, whatever the 3 questions are I am going to answer them.” And right away within several minutes, I got 3 questions right away. And I am planning to answer those right away on this show. I had another topic I was going to discuss but it hit me. I want to hear what your questions are and I would like to answer them.

I have not prepared answers but I am going to do my best to answer them. I’m going to answer these totally off the cuff. Whatever comes to my mind first. I’m going to be thinking as I am doing the show with you.

The first one is from Chris in Maryland and Chris asks me what is your biggest fear? That’s a really good question. I have to think about that for a second. This may not be my biggest fear but one of my fears is actually heights. I’ve kind of overcome that.

I am a backpacker and a mountain climber. I’ve been to some crazy heights doing some weird things on ledges and cliffs where there’s basically a thousand foot drop. I remember we were hiking in Grand Canyon and there’s a side canyon there. It’s really unbelievable. Until you actually backpack or hike all the way down into the canyon you see it’s not just one canyon. There are all these big side canyons that in themselves are tremendous attractions.

I remember backpacking through Grapevine Canyon. I remember there was a part of the trail that was kind of a downward sloping hill. And just to your right there is about a 2000′ sheer cliff drop off. So if you slip, it’s wet, someone pushes you, or something like that, you are basically falling to your death 2000′. And I remember it was kinda scary. Not kinda, it was scary!

I was hiking with Yoko, Landy, Lou, and I think just 3 other people. And Landy was trying to talk to me when we were walking through this little area. And I said “Landy please do not talk, I need to concentrate. I am really scared.” [Dave laughs] But that’s not my greatest fear. But I’ve overcome that. I do these things to help me overcome my fear of heights. But there’s something about looking down a cliff that your standing on the edge of that’s like 2000’+. I am scared of that. I am scared. It’s ok.

But I think my biggest fear is probably dying. And it’s not really the fear of dying itself. I believe the act of dying is not really that fearful to me. It’s kind of like whatever would lead up to it. For example, if I get shot. I mean God forbid that I would get shot. But it’s kind of like whatever would lead up to it. You know what I mean. But in other words, if I am in horrible pain, if I’m drowning and can’t breathe, if I’m choking, something like that. Something like that leading to death is really really scary to me.

So I think that’s what I would probably say is my biggest fear. And I believe some of this may come from a past life I got into a crazy drowning accident or maybe fell off a cliff 2000′.

I’m really not afraid of many things. I am afraid of my health going downhill. I do everything I can to stay healthy. I am not afraid of being homeless or losing friends or anything like that. If things happen to me in my life I am pretty confident that I can take care of them. Being in serious end of life pain or health issues leading to death is probably my greatest fear. Maybe I should try to overcome that too. We all have to die, I know that! But it’s what would lead up to the act of dying and not really dying itself. I think once you die you’re probably extremely comfortable wherever you may be. I’ve read a lot of books on near death experiences and by all accounts it sounds like people are in a beautiful place once they die and come out of their bodies. So that’s not scary to me at all.

So, Chris I hope answered that question ok. Again, I didn’t rehearse. I didn’t think about this at all before. I am just reading the question and answering it totally off the cuff.

That was a good one! Thanks so much for that Chris!

The next question, Eric from South Carolina asks, “what is one life lesson you would tell your 30 year old self?” One life lesson I would tell my 30 year old self. That’s a great one Eric! Let me think about that one for a second too.

Number one, I think there are a lot of them. There are a lot! I wish I would have known the powers of being vegan and not eating animals when I was 30. I wish I would that powerful thing. That’s definitely one.

This is a great question. And maybe I’ll do a whole episode on this one. This is going to sound like it doesn’t really fit. It should be something like “do everything in your power to be happy” or “love mankind, love people, love trees, love animals.” But the one that really comes to my mind is the one life lesson I would have taught my 30 year old self (or earlier), it would be financial actually. I know Eric, that this will really resonate with you and I know it will resonate with a lot of people. The lesson would be something like “stay the course, don’t deviate from the course when saving and investing money.” Spend much less than you make, invest the difference in safe investments. Don’t think you can get tips from your friends and invest in the stock market. Safe mutual fund investments.

Stay the course. Don’t be tempted to pull your money out when things are going bad in the economy and then think you’re going to jump back in when things are going better. Just stay the course. Stay even and keep investing every single month. Pay yourself first meaning that the first thing you do with your money is that you invest the amount that you are going to put aside every single month. And you keep doing it. No matter what the political climate is, no matter what the economic climate is, no matter what, you just keep putting that money in your investments every single month. including your retirement funds every month.

Let me tell you something. If you do that and you don’t get emotional about it, and you don’t listen to what other people are doing and all that craziness, you will be a millionaire+ by the time you are ready to retire. Or probably a multi millionaire. But you have to do that.

I wish somebody would have told me that. I wish somebody would have spanked my butt every time I made one of these stupid mistakes like when the economic climate starts going down and the stock market starts going down I would stop sending money in. That’s ridiculous! That’s the time to send money in. When things are going down and everybody is worried and going crazy you send more money in. Because guess what?! It’s always going to come back up. As long as we have always had the DOW and the NASDAQ, it’s always been on an upward trend. Does it go down sometimes? Of course it does! Did it go down like crazy in 2009? And on paper people lost half of their assets? Yes! But guess what? As I am recording this we’re on the cusp of the DOW hitting 20,000 for the first time ever in history! We just passed 19,000 for the first time in history a few days ago.

So that’s my lesson that I would teach my 30 year old self. And any other 30 year old or similar ages out there that’s a great great question. God do I wish I would have done that.

I’ve got some stories! I had this hot shot financial planner who, when things were going really well back in 1999 and I was making all kinds of money and I had all kinds of money to invest, this guy had me invest in like 3 or 4 private placements. And I sent a lot of money over to him. And then of course we had the crash around 2000 and then 9/11 in 2001. Things came tumbling down. The amount of money that I lost would floor you. I can’t even tell you how much. But that’s another story for a different episode.

Great question Eric! I really appreciate that!

As I sip my coffee out here it’s a cold afternoon. It feels beautiful! I love the be in my outdoor studio. I always preach that you should be one with nature and I love to have my feet planted on the soil. It just feels so good. I get invigorated when I’m outside recording as opposed to sitting at a desk inside with my beautiful mixer and microphone. I think I am more creative and more vocal outside. It just does something to my body and that’s why I urge you to go outside when you’re doing your “Magic 4” or when you’re running or when you’re doing anything. I urge you to get outside no matter what the temperature is. You can bundle up. It feel great out here! Another lesson from Dave 😉

Tom from Tennessee writes, “what is a goal that you have not achieved yet that you are pretty sure you’ll accomplish?” A goal that I haven’t yet achieved. Tom must know that I am a big goals guy. I’ve lived by goals for at least the past 25 years for sure. When you write them down and when you read them every single day, they have a way of coming true.

So what’s a goal that I haven’t reached yet that I am pretty certain I will? Great question! Let’s see. That’s an easy one Tom. Yoko and I know that the goal we’re going to reach is that we will have a primary home in Colorado in the Rocky Mountains most likely in Breckenridge. That is a goal that we both have written down on our goal sheets and our book of goals. We read them everyday. I know it’s going to happen but it hasn’t happened yet. A few things have to fall into place which I know they will.

I always pay cash for everything. I do not take out loans. I do not take out mortgages. I pay cash. Every single thing I have is paid for. I’m standing outside and looking at my house right now, it’s paid for. I’m looking at my cars, they’re paid for. Everything! So I am not going to move out there and borrow money to buy a house. I’m not going to do that. So the only thing that’s really stopping me now, other than a few minor things, is that I need to wait and save up a little bit more money for a house. Because when I sell this house here, it’s a nice house, but it’s not going to bring me enough money to buy what we want out in Colorado. It’s not that we’re looking for a mansion. Trust me we’re really not. We’re minimalists. We’re looking for something actually fairly small but I also want it to be the right place in the right area so it’s going to cost a little bit more money than the house is going to bring us here for the sale of it.

The biggest problem of all; and it’s not really a problem, I know I’ve shared this with you before, but about 1 1/2 years ago I wrote a large check to my ex-wife to finalize a financial obligation that I had from a divorce that took place about 16 years ago. The state of Maryland has something called permanent alimony. It’s absolutely ridiculous. Basically for the rest of my life, I was supposed to be writing her this huge check every month. And nothing bad about her. It was all legal and that’s pretty much what the deal was. And I am not bad mouthing anybody. And I tell you something else, she’s a wonderful person! But I still had this obligation to her. I did.

I did not want to have this obligation for the rest of my life. I don’t know what’s going to be happening. I don’t know how long I want to work. I want to work forever but I don’t know how long I want to be pressured into making a certain amount of money so I could pay a very large amount of money every month for permanent alimony. So I wanted to work out a deal to get out of that. And in order to work out a deal like that it took a huge check that I had to write which depleted a large portion of my assets to be very honest with you.

Don’t worry about me. I’m ok! I still have some money. But it’s nothing like I had before I had to write this check. So I need to working on building up a little bit more. That might be too much information but it’s ok. The reason I do this show is because I am totally transparent. I don’t hold back. I want to share my life with you so that you can learn from me and learn from the good things I do and learn from the mistakes. If I held stuff back and didn’t share with you and made it seem like everything’s perfect in my life, then I wouldn’t be doing you a good service. It wouldn’t be right. Because as good as my life is I’ve got crazy things that have happened to me in the past and will probably happen in the future because we’re all human beings and crazy things do happen. So I want to share that with you. It was a tremendous struggle that I had for many many years. I had this really difficult financial obligation every single month whether money was coming in or not. This huge financial obligation was basically never ending and I had to put an end to it. And it took a huge amount of money to end it. But I’m good. I feel like this tremendous weight was lifted off my shoulder. I’m rebuilding and that’s fine.

So Tom I answered that in a very long way. But that’s my goal that I know is going to happen and it’s going to happen most likely within 2-3 years. That’s what we’re planning. 2-3 years give or take.

I’m excited whenever Yoko and I are out west in Breckenridge, Colorado. Tom, you know this too! I know Tom personally.

I appreciate all of you writing in these questions, Chris, Eric, and Tom. I happen to know all of you fairly well. So I appreciate that a lot.

But there are also other goals that I read every day on my goal sheet. But that is the main one that I think. Tom was looking for that answer right there.

Wow! Ok, I’m out of breath. I think I like this idea. I think I like putting this up on Facebook and answering the first 3 questions I get asked. So I think I am going to do this again. And when I do it I promise that whatever the question is, even if I don’t really like the question, I’ll answer it in some way so that it will make it fair so that you know if you write a question and you’re the first 3, you know it’s going to get answered. I kind of like that.

I hope you liked the show! I hope you did! Feel free to send me an email and let me know if you like the concept. I’d like to do a live call-in show. I did that once or twice but it was difficult because I need certain equipment. It was not easy to do. Technically it’s not a simple thing to do. But I tried it early on when I first started my podcast. I think what is was is that I recorded some questions and played them on the show. That’s what it was. But let’s see if this thing works. Let me know! Send me an email to dave@davidmadow.com. Send me an email and let me know what you think. Hang out with us on Facebook. We’re there! I’d love to have you with us! Until next time…

I am Dr. Dave. I’ll see you next week! Have a great one!

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