A Valuable Technique You Can Master

Today I am going to share with you a very powerful technique that you can use when interacting with other people. I would say it’s a form of a superpower, an unfair advantage if you will, that you can master very quickly to win the charm of anyone, whether it be at an interview, a social event, a night at the bar, a business meeting, a date, a wedding… basically anywhere!

It’s the ability to make someone feel special – like they are the only person in the room. In this busy world of ours, very few people take the time to do this. Become good at this technique and I PROMISE you your world will change for the better!

I actually learned this from a friend of mine. It’s called the LASER technique and here are the steps you use whenever interacting with someone:

1. Look at the person. And only them. At no point do you look away, especially beyond or around them to someone else. People can tell instantly when your eyes are focused on something besides them. You may notice that they sometimes turn to see what you are looking at instead of them.

2. Actively listen. Focus completely on being interested in what they are saying, and only that. If you are thinking about what you want to say next, they can tell.

3. Stay focused on them. Don’t let your attention wander. Stay completely focused on them to the end of the interaction.

4. End well. When you do finally decide to break away, don’t look away first and then say some equivalent of, “Well, I’ve got to be going now.” Look straight at them and say something like, “It was great to meet you. I’m going to remember what you said about global warming, Stan. I’ve got a few other people to meet.” Shake hands, squeeze their shoulder, or hug them if you’re a hugger. Then look away as you move away, not before.

5. Remember them. The next time you see them, remember their name and some detail about them. You’ll blow their mind.

To give you more detail, let’s break that final communication down: “It was great to meet you.” That communicated that you were at the wrap-up.

“. . . global warming.” You showed them you were listening.

“Stan.” You remembered their name.

“I’ve got a few other people to meet.” That’s your gracious exit line.

If you can maintain total focus on the person, you will be astounded at how people will respond. You will not have to do it for long. It works within minutes.

The LASER Technique is a master move in Superboldness. Become good at it.

I learned this technique from my friend Fred Joyal who happens to be a very successful businessman, author, public speaker and more. I have been practicing it every day and the results are… well… unbelievable so far!

Fred has a brand new book out called SUPERBOLD which outlines not only the LASER technique, but SO MUCH MORE!

SUPERBOLD is one of the best books I have read in the last few years. I have already recommended it to many people who I care about. And since I care about you, I would highly recommend grabbing a copy today on Amazon at THIS LINK! You will thank me later!

I’m at My Wit’s End and Want to Try THIS Idea

Dear David, 

I saw Joseph’s question to you last week and it prompted me to write this. I feel as though I am down to my wits end. My relationship with my wife has not been great for about the last five years or so, but it worsened horribly during Covid. There was nowhere to go and we found ourselves fighting daily. To add insult to injury, I lost my job and we have burned through our savings at a very rapid rate. David, I am scared that pretty soon I will not even be able to pay our mortgage and we will get foreclosed on. I have nightmares about being homeless.

I have one saving grace that I keep coming back to. I had a life experience in the 80’s that was so insanely crazy that I want to write a book about it. I have shared this idea with several people that I am close with and they have all said that I should go for it. If the book works out, I am pretty sure someone will pick this up and would want to do a screenplay. Then my life could actually be back in order.    

David, what do you think? This truly is my last shot at making money and getting back on my feet. Thanks for any help you could give me. ~Matt

Dear Matt, first of all I want to say that I am so sorry about your life situation. To use the old cliche, life has certainly thrown you a bunch of lemons. But having said that, let me give you my feeling about you writing a book to get out of this funk. 

My answer – NO!!! Do NOT do it. Please DO NOT!!!!

OK, now that I hope I have made myself clear, let me explain. 

Matt, you are in a very serious situation. Trying to write a best seller book with no experience is similar to putting all of your money on a lottery ticket hoping to get rich. The odds are stacked so far against you that let’s just say it’s almost impossible. 

But that does not mean I would give up on turning your life around. To the contary, you need to get started NOW! 

I see two immediate things that you need to do starting TODAY!!!

Number one is go get a job. I don’t care what it is, just get a job so that you can have some money coming in. Same with your wife. She needs to be making money too. I know for sure that you could BOTH get jobs at a restaurant tomorrow. They are really hurting for help and unless there’s something I don’t know about you, you would be hired. 

If you can no longer afford your house, there is no shame in that. Selling it and renting an inexpensive apartment for now may have to do. And you will need to adjust your spending so that you are spending less than you guys make every month. You’ll have to suck it up but you can do this. 

Secondly, you need to figure out the situation with your relationship with your wife. If your lives are totally miserable together and you have tried EVERYTHING to fix this, then you’ll both have to admit this and move on. I have a sneaking suspicion that your fighting is the thing that is holding you both back from living your lives. When two people live together and the relationship is horrible, you just can’t keep going on like this. So please work on both of these things and you will get your life back. 

I’ll send you a copy of my new book “How to Become The Neighborhood Millionaire.” It’s actually full of strategies on how to earn more money, budget and manage your money, as well as how to turn what you have into more money for your future. I am quite sure there will be many strategies in the book that will help you. 

Then one day when you are back on your feet and you can write your own book out of love and passion and not solely because you need money desperately, go for it! Write back to me any time if you need more help. 

~DMM

Years of Emotional and Psychological Abuse

Her’s a great question I received a short time ago.

QUESTION:

I have been married for over twenty years. In the last ten years my wife has turned into a different person from the one I married. She feels the need to control me more than ever. When I confront her, she tells me to get therapy. She does not want any part in admitting that she may be the problem or at least part of it. She has alienated me from my family as well as my friends. She incessantly tells me what to do. We can only get together with people who she approves of. I have tried to sweep much of this under the rug to keep peace and harmony in the family, but lately I feel as though I am bursting inside. I recently had a friend say he thinks I’m a victim of emotional abuse from my wife. Do many men get emotionally abused? At what point do I just need to say this is not working.

Thanks for all you do, Joseph

Joseph – thanks for your question as well as your honesty. That must have been difficult for you to write this. I can identify with so much of what you have asked. Yes, men can absolutely be abused in a relationship. Unfortunately I have spoken to many people lately, both male and female, who find themselves in similar situations.

How do you or anyone know if you are being abused? Here is a little checklist. Take a look at it and see how many of these apply to your life. It’s not a scientific list but obviously the more you can check off, the more likely it is that you are being abused. I am wondering which ones apply to your situation:

  • Calling you insulting names
  • Yelling and screaming
  • Repeatedly putting you down
  • Comparing you with others
  • Intentionally hurting your feelings
  • Socially isolating you
  • Belittling you on a regular basis
  • Ignoring you
  • Disapproving and contemptuous looks
  • Blaming you for their problems
  • Controlling you or punishing you for small things (not getting dishes washed or something cleaned well enough)
  • Threatening to leave you
  • Lying to you
  • Intimidating you
  • Breaking things
  • Correcting everything you say
  • Always taking the opposite view from yours
  • Cutting you off from your family and friends
  • Giving you the silent treatment for hours or days
  • Forcing you to own responsibility for every problem
  • Checking up on you and being overly suspicious
  • Nitpicking and lengthy interrogations or lectures
  • Refusing to honor your requests for time and space
  • Withholding affection
  • Demanding sex
  • Temper tantrums to get what they want
  • Discounting your perceptions and feelings
  • Constantly denying anything is wrong
  • Verbal abuse that attacks your nature and abilities, so you begin to believe there is something wrong with you.
  • Out of control or irrational behavior and physical violence of any kind whatsoever — these should not be tolerated.

If you find yourself checking off even a few of these, it’s probably time to run… not walk to the nearest EXIT!!! From my life experience, there is usually NO FIXING a person who demonstrates this type of behavior. If you stick with him or her, you are enabling the abuser. I know this sounds very cold and cruel, but the people I know who have moved on from an abusive relationship have learned to become whole and happy again. Those who simply stay in the situation hoping it will get better end up sick or worse.

I hope this helps you and anyone else reading this who may be in a similar situation. Sending you strength.

-DMM

Here is What to Do When You Experience Sad Days

So how is your year going so far? I will wager a bet that it is likely much better than 2020. 

I wanted to bring up a very common question I receive from my readers. There are many versions but it goes something like “Some days I feel a bit sad or depressed and it’s just hard to get motivated. What can I do?”

I will answer this question but before I do so, I want to make it clear that I am not a licensed therapist and this information is not meant to take the place of professional therapy. 

So having said that, here is my response. It’s perfectly normal as human beings that we have sad days, even if we do not necessarily know why we are experiencing sadness. Every day does not have to be a glorious productive day. We all have up days and down days and as long as the down days are not truly interfering with your life, it’s OK to have them. I would be more worried if you did NOT have some down days! If you feel you are not getting anything done once in a while, it’s fine. If you need to stay in bed a little longer or take a nap in the middle of the day, that’s OK too. 

And please keep something in mind. As living breathing human beings, we ALL have issues. But you may wonder about the people who you see on social media whose lives seem perfect every day. Just trust me when I tell you that they are not showing you everything. They are only showing you what they want you to see. Anyway, you only need to worry about you. What someone is trying to show you on Instagram does not affect your life! 

~David

Why Hide It?

Please excuse today’s title. I had a totally different article in mind for today’s blog. But then I realized there is something extremely important that I need to share with you.

My new book is FINALLY on Amazon! This is super exciting. Not because I just published a book. It’s because I can now help people all across the globe lose all of their stress about money issues and become financially independent!

It’s called “How to Become The Neighborhood Millionaire” and I would say it could be the most prolific book written on personal finance in the last 100 years! I am going to be helping people who are stressed about money, in debt, questioning retirement, not sure how to invest, arguing with spouses, don’t have nearly enough in savings, and so much more!

Every book written on this subject to date is too complex, too esoteric, and beyond the comprehension of regular people like you and me. That’s why so many people are still broke and confused.

Until now! My book will change EVERYTHING.

Now as good as this may sound, I am going to ask for your help today. You see, the only way I can get the word out about this book in the beginning is to ask people like you to go to Amazon, purchase the book (either Kindle or paperback) and then give it a good honest review. I want to help thousands of people and this is really my only shot right now.

And the way Amazon’s algorithm works is that if many people are buying a book in a very short period of time (the same day), it detects that there is a lot of interest in that particular book. So Amazon then suggests it to others and word grows and grows.

This is precisely why I am asking you to do this right now! Yes, it would be a great favor to me. Please go to Amazon at this link: https://amzn.to/3wQe1nC. Then purchase the book for yourself and perhaps even more for friends, loved ones, co-workers, family members and more! One is good, more is even better!

Then once you see how good it is and how it can help so many people who are in need, go ahead and give it a good honest review. I would LOVE to get 100% compliance today and tomorrow! That would be so awesome! But that means you need to click through right now! I am giving you a million THANK YOUS in advance. Now please go to https://amzn.to/3wQe1nC.

Thanks!

-DMM

A Fight at the Car Wash?

It was a nice day so I decided to stop at the car wash on my way home from an appointment to get rid of the salt and grime from my 2005 Volvo. It’s a car wash I have been to many times. One of those self service places. You’ve seen them. You put the credit card in and the timer starts. I spray it myself, use the foaming brush, rinse it off and then I’m good to go. 

As I arrived, the bays (there must be six of them) were all full. So I stopped my car in a “staging area” where I’d be able to pull into the next available bay (kind of like that line at the bank). 

As a guy was finishing up, a black car came out of nowhere, pulled directly up to that bay to grab the spot, totally ignoring the fact that I had been waiting 5-10 minutes. 

I drove my car over to the bay, rolled my window down and (very politely I believe) said to the guy “Hey man. I’ve been waiting here for ten minutes for the next bay to open up.” His response was “I didn’t see you.”

I (again, politely) said “Well that’s not cool, I have been waiting.” 

His response? “I don’t give a shit!” 

Now there were three ways I could have handled this and of course I had to think fast. 

I could have started screaming at him and the situation could have easily escalated to something bad. This was not even a choice in my mind.

The second possibility was to just ignore him and wait for the next bay.

Or the third possibility was to just be kind because we really never know what’s going on with someone. 

I chose number three. I responded with “Peace brother, have a great day.” Don’t ask me why, those were just the first words that came to my mind. 

Within thirty seconds, the guy got back into his car and just drove away. Kindness prevailed. One minute later I was washing my car. 

DMM

Is This Person In YOUR Neighborhood?

Another two weeks have passed. How are you making out? I still have not studied Japanese as much as I would like nor have I written that song (although I have an idea). I did however promise in the last issue to share one cool thing that I have been spending my time on during this pandemic.

I wrote a book! 

That’s right, I am actually putting the finishing touches on one of the most exciting projects of my life – a book that will be called “How to Become The Neighborhood Millionaire.”

Now those of you who know me realize that I am not a financial planner by any means. I don’t have a CPA or an accountant degree. I have never worked on Wall Street or in a bank. Heck, I never took an economics class in college. So you could fairly say that I do not have the “credentials” to write a book on personal finance!

And you would be right. Well… maybe only half right!

You see, for the last several decades I have been a “student” of my own personal finances. I have done many things right and I have also made all of the mistakes that you could imagine! Some of them are so embarrassing, you wouldn’t believe it. And yes I will share them all in the book!

But when the dust settled, even with the mistakes, I came out alright! 

I actually believe that having no “formal” training in being a financial advisor is in my favor. You see, I am just a regular person, probably no different than you. I realized a while back that just about everyone does personal finances wrong and that’s why so many people are stressed about money, paying bills, their nest egg, retirement, etc.

I am happy to say that I have figured this all out and it’s actually not all that difficult. The problem is that most people MAKE it difficult! My goal in writing this book is to teach regular people just like you and me how to become “Neighborhood Millionaires.” I have done it and so can you. You just need to follow some principles which I explain very clearly.

What exactly is a “Neighborhood Millionaire?” Now you’re a bit curious, aren’t you? That’s fine. I’ll tell you EVERYTHING in the book. Although there is not an official release date yet, I am trying my best to have it available by March or April of this year! If you are interested and would like to be among the first to find out more as soon as the book becomes available, please CLICK HERE. No obligation whatsoever. This book is for you if you are truly interested in never again having personal financial stress.

-DMM

What Have You Been Doing the Last Ten Months?

That’s right, we have been “social distancing” along with on and off lockdowns for close to a year now. If you have been sick or have loved ones who got sick or were lost, I am truly sorry and I am with you and sending love.

And if you’ve been fortunate enough to escape the virus up until now, I would love to know what you have done, if anything, to enhance your life, even if just a little bit in 2020. 

Personally I have done some things but maybe not as much as would have liked. I have definitely read a lot of good books, some of which I have shared here with you. Probably my favorite has been “Breath” by James Nestor. If you have not read this one, I HIGHLY recommend it!

I wanted to study more Japanese but that has not worked out so well for me. I chalk it up to laziness. After all, I had plenty of time but I just put it off.

Yoko and I wanted to write a song to sing and play together but that has also been put on the back burner.

It kind of bums me out because there has been just SO MUCH time to do things in our lives that perhaps in the past we have not had time for or maybe procrastinated on. Now we have the time and we still don’t get it done? Why not? Do you feel the same way or are you happy with how you have been spending your time mostly isolated from friends and family?

It’s not over. I STILL plan to study some Japanese and write that song with Yoko. Maybe sharing these words with you will actually get me going. Because it’s so easy to be lazy, right? And days turn into weeks and the weeks into months.

There IS one thing that I have spent quite a bit of time writing and I will likely share it with you in the next issue.

Finally, this has nothing to do with the above, but I started a little video series on my YouTube Channel called “A Friend to Lean On.” It is for you if you are frustrated with not being able to visit friends and family members as you always have. It’s for you if you simply want a comforting voice to listen to while you are awake or when you’re trying to fall asleep. Sometimes it makes sense, other times it does not! As of this writing I have three episodes up. Check it out here! https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLO8l2YoJXkA…

-DMM

The Final Blog

So this is Christmas
And what have you done
Another year over
A new one just begun
And so this is Christmas
I hope you have fun
The near and the dear ones
The old and the young
A very merry Christmas
And a happy New Year
Let’s hope it’s a good one
Without any fears
~John Lennon


This is a special day. Whether or not you celebrate, it’s a cool time of the year. I do not happen to be Christian, but even so, I totally get into it and enjoy all of the lights, the decorations, the spirit, and perhaps most of all, the kindness.

I sometimes close my eyes and imagine what the world could be like if everyone would be kind every single day like they are around Christmas time. I think it would be a beautiful place. Let’s all try.

Look, I know 2020 has been a very tough year for everyone. It’s been tough on me, trust me. Besides the virus, we had raging wildfires, a lot of political and social unrest, and all kinds of rough weather all over. We even had an earthquake here in Salt Lake City.

I am never one to wish for time to go by quickly because we have only a limited time to spend on this planet and we should make the most of every day. But probably like you, I am looking forward to closing out this crazy year and hoping only for the best for all of us in 2021.

This will be the final blog entry for the year. Please enjoy it, take care of yourself, be kind, and I will see you with the first article in 2021. With lots of love… David

Yoko’s Salt Lake Soap – The Best Soap Ever!

Close your eyes and picture yourself relaxing in a beautiful natural hot spring somewhere in the Japan countryside. Hot springs in Japan are called “onsen” and they are a very important part of the Japanese culture.

Go ahead, really do this! Close your eyes and just imagine!

After soaking in the onsen, you feel healthy and invigorated – it’s a feeling that is impossible to describe unless you are actually able to experience it. Maybe you are more relaxed than you’ve ever been in your life. You want to do this every day!

I am so fortunate to be married to a Japanese woman who has introduced me to such an amazing culture. I have traveled to Japan many times with my wife Yoko. When I am there we spend a lot of time with her friends and family so I experience Japan more as a local and not as a tourist. An onsen experience is as much a ritual as it is a soak in a hot spring.

But let’s face it. A trip to Japan right now is not easy and likely not in the cards for you or for us! But not to worry, as we could possibly have the very next best thing for you right here!

What could that next best thing be? It’s taking a hot bath in the privacy of your home using a special soap. Yoko and I absolutely love taking daily hot baths with a good quality soap that leaves us refreshed and our skin tingly! You may say I am addicted! And it’s what you put in the water and what you clean your skin with that makes all the difference in the world.

Even after searching for years it was always difficult to find that perfect soap. We experimented with perhaps dozens of different types. Some were good and some were not so good. But we were unable to find exactly what we were looking for.

So what we decided to do was to take the matter into our own hands! One Saturday afternoon, while walking around a farmer’s market here in Salt Lake City, we met a local soap artisan. We shared our idea with him. He loved it! We then worked together to develop a soap that will refresh your body more than you would ever believe.


Introducing Yoko’s Salt Lake Soap – made with activated charcoal and peppermint! Whether you love soaking in a bath or you are more of a shower person… this is the soap for you. It’s a soap that will make you feel good all over. We have literally waited for years to find the perfect soap, and now it’s finally here!

Let’s face it. We are going through crazy times. Many of us are stressed and anxious not knowing what tomorrow will bring. That’s the main reason we are now offering Yoko’s Salt Lake Soap. To make every single day special for you.

My recommendation is to take a daily bath or shower using Yoko’s Salt Lake Soap. This soap may not be able to change the world, but it will make YOU feel much better every day. And little steps are good ones, right?

Order your supply today by going to YOKO’S STORE. The soap now comes in convenient packs of four or six bars. Each bar lasts a long time! Once you experience Yoko’s Salt Lake Soap, your life just may change!

Note: because of the nature of this product, we are not able to accept returns. Thanks for understanding. Also, if you are even remotely interested in getting some of this special soap I suggest that you order NOW as Yoko’s stock is limited at this point!

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No international orders accepted at this point. USA delivery only!

To enter the store, go to: yokosoap.square.site